Notry412 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I met this woman through someone at work, we ended up going out, and she said she had a boyfriend she lived with. So we just talked and hit it off real well. Time went by the texts started getting more serious, so I told her I couldn't be with a woman who was living with her boyfriend. So she told me she had planned on leaving him, and was in the process of doing so. Amazingly a week later she moved out got a new car and a new phone. I was kinda flattered she would go that far to be with me. Time went by we started getting more serious. Her x was still around showing up at her job giving her gifts, offering her a car whatever she wanted. She kept accepting the gifts. She always had the flowers he gave her in her new place. She got the new phone so he couldn't bother her, but she ended up giving him the number so he wouldn't show up at her work. Of course that didn't work when he couldn't contact her on the phone. After the first part of the relationship tho she started playing games. Needed a week to herself with no communication so she could make sure she was making the right decision. Then we were back together for a couple weeks and it was great. This is when it started to get weird. She needed a couple days a week to barely talk to me to get some space, but if I didn't answer her calls she would flip, but wouldn't return mine. The games started after the fact we were already pretty serious. She would carry her phone around the house never letting it leave her side. I have a mutual friend that knows her x-boyfriend who said he told him they were working things out. However according to her and even text message she showed me they weren't talking. I just can't understand the hot and cold she is always showing me. So we were supposed to spend the last weekend together because her roommate was going out of town and she wanted me to stay with her. Then he left and she told me the roommate was coming back on friday instead so no weekend. However I just found out the roommate did stay away until sunday. So then I ask her what's going on and if there is something I should be worried about. So she blew up on me and told me I was the most insecure person she ever met, and we have to break up. She cut off all communication with me since yesterday morning. I really don't know what to think, it was one of the better starts of a relationship, but it really seems like she has mixed feelings. She has been extremely harsh to me for the last 2 weeks so I kinda saw something bad coming. Whenever i tried to give her some distance she would say im to moody and i ignore her to much. If I call her to much i'm to smothering. I seriously don't even know what to do anymore. Most of my relationships have had their issues, but I never had to worry about where I stood or feel insecure about the relationships so this is all new territory for me. Anyone have anything to share about it?
TaraMaiden Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 She had you on a leash while she went back to dating him. The moment you confronted her, she turned it back on you. She's a liar and a cheat. leave it, move on. You dodged a phukkin' missile there buddy, let alone a bullet! 2
hoping2heal Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Don't bother to try and date women who are already in relationships with other people. This is what happens, it's not pretty and this forum has endless masses of threads to back that statement up. Seriously, what's the motivation? 2
Author Notry412 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 My friend never said she was in a relationship, and she was kinda dodgy about it. She did tell me the first time I saw her about him tho, said she has been checked out of the relationship for a year. However she still did live there and thats when i told her I can't get into a relationship with someone living with their boyfriend. However I should have made her stay single a little while maybe before dating her. Just a bad decision on my part, but I do have to admit she had me going for a while. Live and learn I guess, never been in this spot always dated single women.
Imajerk17 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 This is at least the third thread like this I counted in the past 48 hours. WTF is it with dudes getting into relationships that are clearly such bad news. Man for all the grief we dump on the women you guys are even worse. By a long shot... 1
veggirl Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 A girl on the rebound who never actually cut contact with one of her exes was one of your "better starts to a relationship" ?! you need to find an available woman who is not jumping from guy to guy. why would you think a woman fresh out of a live-in relationship is ready for a NEW relationship? hello. this was doomed from the beginning. 1
xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 When a girl is accepting gifts like that, you can bet she was already sleeping with the guy. 1
hoping2heal Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 (edited) My friend never said she was in a relationship, and she was kinda dodgy about it. She did tell me the first time I saw her about him tho, said she has been checked out of the relationship for a year. However she still did live there and thats when i told her I can't get into a relationship with someone living with their boyfriend. However I should have made her stay single a little while maybe before dating her. Just a bad decision on my part, but I do have to admit she had me going for a while. Live and learn I guess, never been in this spot always dated single women. Okay so you were lied to straight off. Fair enough, nobody is perfect. You made mistakes and these are the consequences. Just don't do it again or I'll call your Mother. Edited July 8, 2013 by hoping2heal too much too 1
Author Notry412 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Yea for some reason I was naive and wanted to believe her. My friend told me she was a pretty good person, but is admitting to me now that he didn't know her "that" well heh. It sucks, but it is what it is.
Author Notry412 Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Just a update im curious if anyone has dealt with. I ignored this woman after she broke it off, but now she sends me a nasty text today calling me the worst person ever and not to contact her ever. When I haven't sent anything to her? Not sure what would bring something like that on, but i am of course ignoring it.
BradJacobs Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Just a update im curious if anyone has dealt with. I ignored this woman after she broke it off, but now she sends me a nasty text today calling me the worst person ever and not to contact her ever. When I haven't sent anything to her? Not sure what would bring something like that on, but i am of course ignoring it. Bitches be trippin'. Take her advice and don't contact her again. Best wishes!
Quiet Storm Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Just a update im curious if anyone has dealt with. I ignored this woman after she broke it off, but now she sends me a nasty text today calling me the worst person ever and not to contact her ever. When I haven't sent anything to her? Not sure what would bring something like that on, but i am of course ignoring it. She loves attention, and you have been ignoring her. If you respond, even negatively, it will validate her. It's just drama. Please ignore her.
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