mrniceguy6 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 (edited) hey guys... im new to the forum... the worst part is over but i still need help... so here's my story. me and my ex have been together for 3 years and 7 months. she is 21 now and i am 23...we were happy together... never had fights... never had major problems until this... she broke up with me last month. dont really feel like reiterating the whole story, but her reasons are in this link ... except for 4, 11, and 14... aside from these reasons, what caused this was actually because we lost communication... i was dealing with family, friends, and personal issues at the time, while she kept her problems and pain to herself... i was warding off other problems and became insensitive to her feelings... part of our immaturity i guess.. when she openend i resolved all those problems so theyre gone now. we spoke about six times... the first 3 times i begged, i was frustrated and desparate... the last 3 talks i was composed and we talked naturally as if we weren't breaking up... the first 5 talks happened in a week... i stopped contacting her for 3 weeks until she contacted me wanting to talk... we didnt really talk.. more like i gave a speech saying sorry, telling her things i realized, and promising changes... she acknowledged these but said it was too late, she felt numb, and just kept saying sorry.. this is the 2nd week since that happened... and a month since the breakup..since then ive blocked and unfriended and unfollowed her everywhre... she confessed to me that there was another guy texting her while we were still together. they are officemates but they dont hang out, just through chat or text.. she said he makes her happy sometimes but she wasnt entertaining him because we were still together and knew it was wrong... she got together with her friends recently and they told me that she told them that she cares for me and is worried about me... they said she said she and the guy are just friends... and that she is trying to shove off the guy because she knows it isnt fair to me... and she is unsure if he would just be a rebound... the guy is shorter than me and older he is 26... my ex is 5'10'', i am 5'9'' and a half... i know it sounds ridiculous but im trying to find any sort of advantage to make me feel better lol... there arent many tall people in my country... most guys prefer shorter girls becuase it makes them feel insecure...anyway if anything happens between them im sure it wont last long.. right now im just waiting for august.. 2 months should be enough NC...we work for the same company and i will moving to the same buildig as her and the other guy (they are together in a project), ill be on a different floor.. as far as i know... she will be moving to a different project by september (away from the guy so i guess it works to my advantage).. i will just text her right before the move.. ask her how shes been... tell her ill be moving the next day... and that ill see her around... thats it... im planning on gradually talking to her often afterwards and then courting her until i get a chance to get back together... we dont have major issues, no fights, no personality conflicts...we have chemistry and years of being together... her family and friends really like me a lot and actually urged her to give me a second chance though she ignored them... so yea i guess reconcilling might be a possiblity... thanks for me hearing me out.... id appreciate your thoughts on this edit: sorry i think im on the wrong forum... mods please move.. Edited July 9, 2013 by mrniceguy6
Garfish Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 You just keep talking like you're wanting to reconcile with her. Believe me it's not worth reconciling with somebody who's been two timing or scheming to find a better guy. If you broke up, just get on with your life, stop trying to get back with her. Respect yourself.
for666 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 i got one interesting question if you NC all the time! do you gonna have allot of chances to BUMP with her at work? elevator/lunch breaks/sig breaks??
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