LoveB86 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I don't even know who he was when I was with him! He is taking her out to lunch on his days off (never did with me), buying her flowers (never did with me), driving miles away to see her for 5 minutes (never did with me). He never ever went out his way for me! I work with him and the new girlfriend and he just picked her up with his best friend who was a mutual friend of our's. It's like I am just easily replaced. Kick me to the curb 3 months ago and just acted like he never cared. Just am so hurt to see all this at work. Seeing our mutual friend talking to her... while I am still picking up the pieces of this breakup. Trying to remain strong all this time, trying to be happy when the thoughts of him messing with another co worker while with me pops up in my head, seeing how he walks around with her at work like he never hurt another person.. How could he be so cruel??? Still at NC for 3 months and he never reached out to me and I will remain at NC .. but what I saw he did hurt me so much because he never brought his friend by to see me. He never cared for me, he never loved me, he lied to me and how could I ever trust someone again!! I was so stupid to been played a fool. I'm so stupid and am having a nervous breakdown. 1
jphcbpa Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Seriously, he did you a favor. Who wants to be with a cheater. Be happy for them (that you found out the truth of who he is) and stay the course of your life. You are on the right path. 1
Tenderheartbear Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I am so sorry you have to go through this. I would be so upset to witness this kind of behavior as well. Please try to be kind to yourself and understand that he was never deserving of someone like you to begin with. I don't know your story but I know what hurt feels like. You are not stupid so please don't say that. Breathe and try to relax your mind. Do not give him your power! 1
Author LoveB86 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 I am trying so hard to keep straight, but I am going so backwards and what I saw hurt me so bad today. I just closed my eyes and acted like I didn't see what happened, but seeing the mutual friend talking to her brought tears to my eyes. If only his friends and family knew what he did to me. Cheating and used me for a fool. I'm torn up and led to move on with the pain eating me up inside for 3 months now! I done all I could to keep straight and focused. I let them be happy, but the misery I feel inside of being used is eating me alive. How could anyone hurt someone so bad and not give a crap!! I am so done... I am going to quit this job so that I don't have to see them two.. I just want the fate of me seeing the two to STOP!! I have the worst luck, but my fate is why I happened to see things. The moment I walked over to the other building and BOOM there they were!! My fate is killing me inside :-/ 1
Legatus Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 It's so hard to find peace after a break up if you know that the other person is moving on way faster. Even worse if they started moving on while they were in relationship. I came out of one few weeks ago. Fortunately she realizes how many mistakes she's done, that you have to be honest with people you care about. Because in a relationship lies like that will always come out and it hurts. I can't comprehend why some people just don't bother to be nice any more. I know they will get their karma eventually but I'm just appalled to be considered the same species as them. I know it sounds easy but you have to keep strong. Not for them but for yourself. Changing the job seems like a good idea if you can.. Don't waste any more life on someone who had no decency in your relationship to tell you the truth! 1
groupergirl Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I am trying so hard to keep straight, but I am going so backwards and what I saw hurt me so bad today. I just closed my eyes and acted like I didn't see what happened, but seeing the mutual friend talking to her brought tears to my eyes. If only his friends and family knew what he did to me. Cheating and used me for a fool. I'm torn up and led to move on with the pain eating me up inside for 3 months now! I done all I could to keep straight and focused. I let them be happy, but the misery I feel inside of being used is eating me alive. How could anyone hurt someone so bad and not give a crap!! I am so done... I am going to quit this job so that I don't have to see them two.. I just want the fate of me seeing the two to STOP!! I have the worst luck, but my fate is why I happened to see things. The moment I walked over to the other building and BOOM there they were!! My fate is killing me inside :-/ I know exactly how you feel. I am going through the exact same thing. Keep your head up. My ex is doing the same exact thing. (I don't work with him though). I am so sorry you are going through this, I understand your pain. Keep your chin up. 1
Tenderheartbear Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Anything that is developed from someone else's pain or starts off shady is bound to fail. Karma is something that I believe in STRONGLY and have seen it happen so many times. One of my exes from ages ago left me for someone else and you know where he ended up a year or so later? In jail because she falsely accused him of raping her after they had a fight. Now he has everlasting probation. I still laugh at him to this day and I find pleasure in thinking about Karma getting my most recent ex who strung me along when I was nothing but good to him. It will happen and he will be sorry 1
siankat Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 First of all, well done for holding it together and venting in private while maintaining that boundary within yourself to preserve your dignity in the face of this, and while at work! I know how that can be. There is something fishy about someone like your ex who does a complete 180 in his behaviour. All is not as it seems..but it is not your job to figure that out. Please don't take this as a hit to your self worth, the stuff he is doing with her he didn't with you. Like i said, something isn't right. People, even if diverge off their usual path, always show our true colours in the end. We humans are quite simple in that way. 1
Mws Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I feel your pain. similar thing happened to me let me tell you it is the hardest thing in the world. You feel worthless and like you werent good enough it does shake your confidence to the core. It will get better though as im 2 months in and I am slowly but surely starting to feel good about myself again., 1
Author LoveB86 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 First of all, well done for holding it together and venting in private while maintaining that boundary within yourself to preserve your dignity in the face of this, and while at work! I know how that can be. There is something fishy about someone like your ex who does a complete 180 in his behaviour. All is not as it seems..but it is not your job to figure that out. Please don't take this as a hit to your self worth, the stuff he is doing with her he didn't with you. Like i said, something isn't right. People, even if diverge off their usual path, always show our true colours in the end. We humans are quite simple in that way. I have been questioning myself over and over. For someone like me who was nothing but good to him, I question why this unusual behavior of doing everything different for her than he did with me is based on a few things... 1) She "the new girlfriend" is putting alot of pressure on him to make him do things he never had done with me. Such as taking her shopping, wanting all of his attention, and taking her to lunch everyday. The constant everyday of going out to lunch seems quite pricey (As he would tell me) He rarely went to lunch with me.. So I question what is going on! 2) He never liked me to begin with.. Bottom line and I was used for time, sex, and everything else a couple would do. 3) He is the world's biggest a***** and is trying to make me feel bad on purpose to alleviate his guilt of cheating.
Mws Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I have been questioning myself over and over. For someone like me who was nothing but good to him, I question why this unusual behavior of doing everything different for her than he did with me is based on a few things... 1) She "the new girlfriend" is putting alot of pressure on him to make him do things he never had done with me. Such as taking her shopping, wanting all of his attention, and taking her to lunch everyday. The constant everyday of going out to lunch seems quite pricey (As he would tell me) He rarely went to lunch with me.. So I question what is going on! 2) He never liked me to begin with.. Bottom line and I was used for time, sex, and everything else a couple would do. 3) He is the world's biggest a***** and is trying to make me feel bad on purpose to alleviate his guilt of cheating. Yeah thats what my ex was doing was making me feel worse and trying to point out bad things about me. While she was the one who cheated. As if it wasnt bad enough they destroy you emotionally and take away your confidence they need to make sure they feel ok with themselves after. I dont understand people.
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