Cam116 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 So, recently a guy in my class and I have been getting closer. We've known each other for over a year now, and right around the time that we started this program together he admitted to me that he liked me. At the time, I was in a long relationship, which ended about 7 months ago. I've always found this guy really funny, cute etc, but when I was with my ex it was in a totally platonic type of way. Well since the break-up I've started to notice him more. We started talking more, and flirting with one another. I never tried to pursue anything at the time because I was still healing from my break up. Now that I am healed and moved on, he and I have been flirting non stop, have hung out a few times with classmates out of class. He gave me an open invitation to his shore house this summer, keeps telling me I have to come hang out at his pool etc. The thing is, the flirtiness is mostly through text. When we're in person (not in class), he's not nearly as.....blunt as he is through text. I invited him out yesterday to go tubing with me and a friend of mine. We had a great time, and afterwards he and I went out for a bite to eat. He paid for the meal, but did not try to make any physical contact which is fine. He had to leave to finish a project for school, so we parted ways and a few hours later, the flirty texts started up again! Do you think he could just be shy when in person? He had told me and my ex one night about a year ago that he "had no game and didn't know how to pick up girls". I'm getting more and more interested in him, and he acts super flirty through texts but it doesn't transcend when we are out in a social setting. So do you think it's shyness? Or could it possibly be apprehension about getting involved with a classmate?
Dude420 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 (edited) From the way I read your post, it seems you haven't gone one on one with this guy, you probably make contact with him during school, maybe just going for a coffee or hanging out with other friends. Of course I'm just assuming I don't know your full story. If this is the case, then it could be that this guy doesn't want to show his affection to you when around school or with people you know, he could be secretive about it since he's shy. I think it may be best you guys walk around a park or something so you can have some alone time. I've just recently made a couple of posts based on this girl I'm dating now. I've met her at work and known her for 2 years prior to asking her out. At this point now, when we're at work, we're very secretive about it and do our best to keep our relationship private and away from our colleagues, therefore we don't show affection. However, when we're alone and certain none of our colleagues are nearby, we're all over each other like glue. Edited July 8, 2013 by Dude420
Author Cam116 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 OH I totally understand not being obvious in class. He just seems to flirt flirt flirt through text (our texts back and forth are chock full of innuendo), but when we're out in social places he clams up. Yesterday we were alone when we went to go eat, and he didn't try to make a move which is fine. I'm just wondering now if he's interested and just being shy? Or.....I don't know lol. Obviously no one on here has a crystal ball, just curious for some opinions. This whole thing between us just started heating up very recently
PCS991 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 So, recently a guy in my class and I have been getting closer. We've known each other for over a year now, and right around the time that we started this program together he admitted to me that he liked me. At the time, I was in a long relationship, which ended about 7 months ago. I've always found this guy really funny, cute etc, but when I was with my ex it was in a totally platonic type of way. Well since the break-up I've started to notice him more. We started talking more, and flirting with one another. I never tried to pursue anything at the time because I was still healing from my break up. Now that I am healed and moved on, he and I have been flirting non stop, have hung out a few times with classmates out of class. He gave me an open invitation to his shore house this summer, keeps telling me I have to come hang out at his pool etc. The thing is, the flirtiness is mostly through text. When we're in person (not in class), he's not nearly as.....blunt as he is through text. I invited him out yesterday to go tubing with me and a friend of mine. We had a great time, and afterwards he and I went out for a bite to eat. He paid for the meal, but did not try to make any physical contact which is fine. He had to leave to finish a project for school, so we parted ways and a few hours later, the flirty texts started up again! Do you think he could just be shy when in person? He had told me and my ex one night about a year ago that he "had no game and didn't know how to pick up girls". I'm getting more and more interested in him, and he acts super flirty through texts but it doesn't transcend when we are out in a social setting. So do you think it's shyness? Or could it possibly be apprehension about getting involved with a classmate? Hi, I'm responding because I'm a guy...and shy. I'm seeing a woman (LDR) and on our first date I told her I was shy around women initially but that once I got to know them better down the road I opened up. So, I believe strongly that because of this my date initiated the first hand holding, first kiss, and closeness and that has opened me up with her. Had she waited for me to take these first steps I'm not sure where I'd be now... Hope this helps a little.
Dude420 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Ah ok I see, was it your first time being alone with him on a date? If so, you'll probably have to go with him another time and maybe by then he'll say something. I get the feeling he's just very shy and doesn't want to say something the wrong way. He's probably worried that if he flirts with the wrong tone of voice, he'll scare you off. He's most likely flirting via texting because it's the safest way to play around without you seeing his emotions. I'm an introvert and I can't flirt worth a dime because I know I'm just going to fess up talking to random women. I think you should give him some time.
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 OH I totally understand not being obvious in class. He just seems to flirt flirt flirt through text (our texts back and forth are chock full of innuendo), but when we're out in social places he clams up. Yesterday we were alone when we went to go eat, and he didn't try to make a move which is fine. I'm just wondering now if he's interested and just being shy? Or.....I don't know lol. Obviously no one on here has a crystal ball, just curious for some opinions. This whole thing between us just started heating up very recently Has he ever asked you out on a specific, romantic, one on one date? Flirtiness, innuendo, meh.. it means nothing until they make a conscious effort to be with you. BTW I don't think someone who's sending a girl he barely knows sexually suggestive texts is shy at all. My advice is keep your expectations very low. Trust me, I've been in that situation more times than I care to count.
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