stormywind Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Do you think in a shaky relationship or marriage, that things get better or worse during the holidays? What has been your experience?
brashgal Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Three years ago I had the most wonderful Christmas holiday with my now ex-spouse and my children visiting his family for a week, or so I thought at the time. Turns out he was sneaking away to call his OW every chance he got - she was also on holiday with her family at a resort. Looking at his cell phone bill a few weeks later I realized he called from gas station bathrooms, while supposedly shopping for a gift for me, while I was on the phone talking to my family who was across the country. That was the beginning of the end. So I guess it depends on why your marriage is shaky...
ready2moveon26 Posted October 24, 2004 Posted October 24, 2004 The holidays are a time for family and since a husband and wife are family, it seems to get better. My soon to be ex and I had a huge blowout just before Thanksgiving last year and things cooled off shortly after. We have a daughter that means the WORLD to both of us, so we didn't want to ruin her holidays. We got close again and he even bought me a new engagement ring for my birthday. (December 2nd) He then said that he would get me a new wedding band to match it for Christmas. I thought that this meant things were better and that we would work on our problems. We spent quite a bit of money on Christmas and his brother came home from Iraq, so we were a "happy" family during that time. In February, my husband lost his job and things got rough. We didn't have any money to go out so we were together ALL the time. In an ideal relationship, that would be great, but ours wasn't exactly ideal. In March, I couldn't take it anymore so we seperated. We've been seperated every since. Things are good now because we are friends and agree on everything. My advice to you is...take the "happiness" you get over the holidays and don't worry about it until you have to. Good luck!
Author stormywind Posted October 25, 2004 Author Posted October 25, 2004 I guess it could work both ways. A lot of times people act nicer to each other during the holidays--even if it's just for show. Then other times, the holidays just bring more stress and more expectations. From what I've seen, it seems a lot of breakups happen in January.
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