whatwhit Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hey guys. So I met a guy online. We've video chatted and will be talking for more than a month now. He lives in Florida I'm in Texas. His family lives in the same city as I do. I want to see him, and I never been to Florida so I was planning on seeing him. Should I do this? Has anyone had any horror stories! I know what you're thinking he should come here... But that's not the situation right now. Thanks!!
BluEyeL Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 No, no no!!! He should fly to you!! At least a few times, before you fly to him. 4
OwlSoul Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Why isn't it the situation right now? He has no money? Cannot get out for weekends?
FitChick Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 He has a good reason to fly to you first -- his family lives nearby and he can stay with them. Make him fly to you because you will know that he is interested since he will be spending money to see you. If you hit it off, there will be plenty of opportunities to visit him in Florida. 3
CarrieT Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Has anyone had any horror stories! Tons of horror stories... I met a guy that I flew to and after he picked me up and brought me to his place (yep, I didn't know enough to get my own hotel) - he proceeded to pull out the paraphernalia needed to shoot up heroin. Because we were out in the sticks, it took over an hour for the cab to arrive to get me the hell-outta-there and then I had to wait for five hours for the next flight back home - a flight that cost me almost a thousand dollars. Do what others are suggesting = if he wants to meet you, he can come visit his family and you two can meet in a public place first. 2
JustJana Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hey guys. So I met a guy online. We've video chatted and will be talking for more than a month now. He lives in Florida I'm in Texas. His family lives in the same city as I do. I want to see him, and I never been to Florida so I was planning on seeing him. Should I do this? Has anyone had any horror stories! I know what you're thinking he should come here... But that's not the situation right now. Thanks!! If his family lives near you, even if he's strapped for cash, maybe the two of you could split the ticket for him to come to you. You can always go visit Florida another time! I don't think I'd fly to meet a guy.
soccerrprp Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 No, don't fly out to him. Do as others have suggested. It makes much more sense for him to fly out to you considering he has family in TX. 1
grkBoy Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I'd probably hold off...unless you plan on staying in a hotel in a public spot for your safety. I flew once to meet a girl I was into. Unfortunately while we had chemistry online, she didn't feel any in person. Oh well. Still was an adventure.
BradJacobs Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 No, no no!!! He should fly to you!! At least a few times, before you fly to him. Why? Because somewhere someone said this is how it should be and now it's gospel? @OP, if you feel comfortable then do it. If you don't then meet in the middle or wait for him to travel to you. It's really more about how you want this to develop: in a test tube driven by someone else's rules or organically agreed upon by you both. Best of luck!
grkBoy Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Why? Because somewhere someone said this is how it should be and now it's gospel? @OP, if you feel comfortable then do it. If you don't then meet in the middle or wait for him to travel to you. It's really more about how you want this to develop: in a test tube driven by someone else's rules or organically agreed upon by you both. Best of luck! I agree in terms of gender equality. However, I am swaying for the guy to come to her in this instance because he has family in the same town as the girl, thus a better idea for a first meet is he comes to visit his family and they meet up on one of the nights. In most other cases, the "meet" location should be agreed upon by both sides and the traveler should protect himself/herself. In terms of gender, the idea of "the man should always travel first" is just plain sexist.
Treasa Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 What others said. He flies to meet you, and can visit with his family while he's there. Regardless, you meet in a public place, and do your research and make sure someone knows who you're with.
BradJacobs Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Maybe the guy doesn't like his family that's in Texas? Or maybe he does but is unavailable to make the trip for a couple of months? She's in Texas. He's in Florida. She wants to meet him and is contemplating flying to see him first. That's really the only truths we've gotten so far. Everything else is speculation.
FitChick Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 The one time I flew first was when the guy agreed to pay for my airfare and hotel. And none of this "I'll reimburse you later" nonsense.
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