SmithJ Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hi, I'm sure you're all familiar with my story by now! I've had my ups and downs getting over my ex leaving me three weeks ago, we have recently started limited contact but I have now cut that off (I didn't tell him I was doing that) because every time we speak it does set me back (I feel happy for the first day after we speak but then its all downhill after that because he lets me down by not replying etc) I spent the whole weekend sobbing over him and even went to bed at 10pm on Saturday night and cried about him (loser I know) BUT I woke up this morning and he wasn't my first thought and it felt SO GOOD. I know I'll have ups and downs but I'm feeling the best I've felt in a long time now. I've been going to the gym the past few days, looking at new apartments and even painting again. I've even made a playlist for the gym with destiny's child SURVIOUR first on the list. So, I've decided that when I leave work (in about 10 minutes) I am going to go home, spend an hour in the gym and then treat myself to Chinese food (haven't had take out in ages!), a long hot bubble bath and my sex and the city box set. I deserve to be pampered!!! I'm just saying that there are really dark days (I'm sure I'll have more to come) but things do get better and there is HOPE and really good days too. You need to pamper yourself and have the occasional treat like I'm doing tonight, I'm just enjoying my own company.
Ethliz Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Best of luck to you, thank you for sharing. I too will join the gym and I'll try to pamper myself as well, you give good advice. <3
JDPT Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Absolutely, and acknowledging the fact the we are still in for an emotional rollercoaster helps us preparer better for those gloomy days. Since my break up which occurred roughly 1.5 months ago I've been pampering myself as much as I can which is something I never did while I was with her due to financial issues. I've gone to so many concerts, scheduled to travel overseas in addition to keeping myself busy with school. You need it and deserve to be pampered this is your time now to enjoy and be free and make wise and healthy decisions for yourself. Good luck to you.
theonlyjuan Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Yay! Good for you. It has been 5 weeks for me tomorrow. I really just don't care anymore. I have given up lol. Feels good to not thinking all the time.
Author SmithJ Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 It's strange that since I have been in this frame of mind and looking after myself he has text me not once, not twice but THREE times. I have replied being polite and nice but asking no questions, things are really looking up for me now so I sort of feel like 'what's the point in ignoring him?' I'll always have love for him but I'd never get back with him after what he's done to me, I'd never trust him again. Things are going so well for me and ive done stuff I wouldn't have done when I was with him. I never thought I'd be saying this and feeling good but I really do. Time for me to get out and enjoy the sunshine now. It does get better I can promise you that, even if you don't think so at the time. It's 100% their loss and I can see that so clearly now !
lessica Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 I am just realizing as I read this that I have a deadline to meet for my masters submission, and all I have focused on in the last few weeks is my relationship. Thanks everyone for reminding me that life goes on long beyond this turmoil... and I should be focusing on myself and my own goals.
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