terminus1256 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Sorry to beat a dead horse over a conversation that has happened tons of times on this forum already, but I'd really like some clarity on this issue I'm having with a girl I really like. Some background - I just graduated college and am working a full-time job now. She has still a year left to go, planning on med school after. We've known each other for a while, but she has had a boyfriend the whole time I knew her. Well, we happened to run into each other about a week back and I invited her to a little party I was having. We hit it off there and I decided (a bit drunkenly) to ask her out to dinner. She seemed really excited and said yes immediately, and we planned it for this weekend. So I texted her the next day to iron out the details and she threw in a little caveat out of the blue; she said that since she just got out of a relationship, that she's going to need to take things a little slow. Now my initial reaction was that was an indicator or non-interest, or at least not in a physical/relationship sort of way. But I'm not sure. I know this is such an ambiguous term but I keep getting curious about what it really means. Any insight would be a huge help.
nescafe1982 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 To the contrary: she's interested, but she also has standards. She's telling you she will take it slow, and signalling to you that if you are looking for fast times, you should look elsewhere. She's setting the pace, a good sign if you want a quality woman! Have fun! 2
Author terminus1256 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Thanks! That's very encouraging. I would like to hear some other opinions though if anyone has them... I can be somewhat of a cynic
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