BanditK Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 A while back, I tried to win back the girl I had broken up with. She had a new bf at the time and I watched their relationship crumble. I tried awfully hard to win her back and it appeared we were going to start fresh with no lies and rekindle the romance. That was working until she said I was smothering her and she didn’t want to be tied to us given the fact that she had just moved away. She then proceeded to ignore me for over three weeks. I sent her an email on Friday to apologize for the way I acted. Last night, I receive a phone call from an odd number and it was her. She had changed her number to her new local and called to tell me that she had chased the guy that had dumped her out to the west coast. Things were going well when he dumped her again. She said she lied about me smothering her and that the real reason for her disappearance was that he was mad that her and I were chatting. She said she was totally at fault and it wasn't me. She expressed remorse and regret and I was there to help her as a friend. She is depressed and lonely in her new place and isn’t sure what to do. I stymied her if she brought up me coming to visit or a romantic future between us. I was just over it and don’t really want to be with someone who’d drop me like a hot potato for a flash in the pan deal. She lied to me after we agreed to start over and that simply is not good or even right. I write this because I know some might be struggling and wondering how their ex is doing and how much better off they are. Sometimes it is not the case. In talking to her, I realized that I have my life way more on track and that she let a good thing of over two years walk away because of a guy she dated for a grand total of two months. My overall message is to be strong, forgive and your path to recovery may not be as dire as it seems. 1
SimonSerenade Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Thanks man, it helps to hear your story, I loved my ex but she was pretty much the same, just discarded me when we started fresh, I'm not sure if another guy was involved but my sixth senses seem to tell me so, I tried to be nice to her after the break up but got nothing back in return, haven't heard from her now in maybe 6 weeks, it was hard at first but I hardened up and skipped all that wondering what she was up to and missing her crap, I've been in this situation enough to know it doesn't matter how I feel or what I'm thinking as time will pass and eventually I'll get to the point where I no longer care, I skipped to that point, after all the lies and deceit, I hope I never hear from her again.
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