PalomaRose Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hey all! So, the deal is I left him only 2 weeks ago after a 6 month relationship. I've thought it over a lot since then, and its still driving my crazy. A lot of his behavior can be classified as emotionally abusive, though him and his family are blind to it. I asked to meet up once after we broke up to talk things over, he got cranky at the meeting and walked out saying to never contact him again. He contacted me two days later telling me he 'felt conflicted' but the conversation ended with him getting angry and hanging up. Frankly, those conversations sum up the last few months of our relationship. That was a week ago and we've been NC since. The thing that's bugging me now is I HATE the way things have ended between us. I hate being on horrible terms with him. I would love for him to admit that he has a temper and to get help, for us to give things another shot. He admitted to me about a month ago that he was suffering depression and anxiety, although hes doing nothing about it. This, along with his denial that he has any anger problems makes me doubt there would be any chance of him seeking help. He suggested couple counselling a few times earlier on, so I guess he's not all against the idea, saying that though, I think he believed it was all my fault and I was the reason for counselling. What do I do? I'd love to tell him that there's a chance for us if he would just seek help, but I'm terrified of being shot down again. I also have such massive pride and I feel too strong to give in to accepting the way he treated me. I miss the boy I had when we got together, he wasn't anywhere near as argumentative and was so happy and joking. I want that guy back, not the a**hole I come to have by the end. Has anyone else had a similar situation? Advice? Thanks everyone
Exitleft Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hey all! So, the deal is I left him only 2 weeks ago after a 6 month relationship. I've thought it over a lot since then, and its still driving my crazy. A lot of his behavior can be classified as emotionally abusive, though him and his family are blind to it. I asked to meet up once after we broke up to talk things over, he got cranky at the meeting and walked out saying to never contact him again. He contacted me two days later telling me he 'felt conflicted' but the conversation ended with him getting angry and hanging up. Frankly, those conversations sum up the last few months of our relationship. That was a week ago and we've been NC since. The thing that's bugging me now is I HATE the way things have ended between us. I hate being on horrible terms with him. I would love for him to admit that he has a temper and to get help, for us to give things another shot. He admitted to me about a month ago that he was suffering depression and anxiety, although hes doing nothing about it. This, along with his denial that he has any anger problems makes me doubt there would be any chance of him seeking help. He suggested couple counselling a few times earlier on, so I guess he's not all against the idea, saying that though, I think he believed it was all my fault and I was the reason for counselling. What do I do? I'd love to tell him that there's a chance for us if he would just seek help, but I'm terrified of being shot down again. I also have such massive pride and I feel too strong to give in to accepting the way he treated me. I miss the boy I had when we got together, he wasn't anywhere near as argumentative and was so happy and joking. I want that guy back, not the a**hole I come to have by the end. Has anyone else had a similar situation? Advice? Thanks everyone My advice to you is, he is probably the ******* that you came to see after some time those are most likely his true colours. Also stay NC and if he wants you and valued the relationship, he will contact you to tell you what he is doing to change and that he'd like another chance. This needs more than a week to resolve itself if ever. Sorry, wishing you the best.
Author PalomaRose Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 My advice to you is, he is probably the ******* that you came to see after some time those are most likely his true colours. Also stay NC and if he wants you and valued the relationship, he will contact you to tell you what he is doing to change and that he'd like another chance. This needs more than a week to resolve itself if ever. Sorry, wishing you the best. Thanks. I know you're right. If he can't be bothered to contact me, then he hasn't changed and I don't want that relationship back. It's just tough to get over. I keep swinging between knowing I'm going to fine and crashing and crying thinking of how much I've lost. 1
Exitleft Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Thanks. I know you're right. If he can't be bothered to contact me, then he hasn't changed and I don't want that relationship back. It's just tough to get over. I keep swinging between knowing I'm going to fine and crashing and crying thinking of how much I've lost. I completely relate. I'm sorry. At least you know if he does come back and tells you what he is going to change that he has considered it needs to be done. People rarely change for the long term unless they want to. Just post here whenever you're feeling particularly troubled. I wish you the best. 1
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