Talulah Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 So, it's been 9 days since I last saw my ex. We both lived and taught abroad. Th break-up was supposed to be mutual but I ended up being very heart-broken over the whole situation. I am happy though that we did end it, as we are going our separate ways. I have not contacted my ex in anyway since he left. We said goodbye two times. He doesn't have facebook so it's a bit easier. However, today one of our friends posted a status about how he e-mailed my ex to wish him luck and my ex wrote him back in capital letters and my friend thought that it was very funny and American of him to do so. I have not e-mailed to him and I don't think that I should. He told me that he wanted to travel alone without family, friends, or girlfriends making plans for him. So, here trying my hardest not to e-mail him...ugghhhhh...I really want him to e-mail me and ask me about how I am doing and my situation with my bunny . I have a bunny, which we both raised and I am going to have to leave him here before I leave and no one wants him so far. NC continues...the torture
rastamoose Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I'm trying NC too, although we are meant to he friends. I'm in day 7 and it's hard. Hearing from them makes me feel better, I dunno about you?. I'm just going to be stubborn and wait til she contacts me. I will feel better for it. Just resist the urge, I know it's hard.
Legatus Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Apparently even if two people break up - one heart is always heart broken more then the other. It's tough but you can't do anything about it. If you contacted him it could work out in exactly opposite way. Keep strong! It's only nine days, don't risk it now. Wait till your heart is healed, at least to the point where talking to him about your bunny will be just a nice friendly chat.. I kept NC for 10 days and it was good. Although my break up wasn't mutual at all, and involved many more things. But you have to do what you think is best. If you wait few more days, it can only help you. If not, you can always talk to him first, but it's best to get your heart in good shape first
Author Talulah Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 I will not e-mail him. He is truly the type of guy who needs time and space to miss someone. He's told me this many times. So, knowing that I will give him what he needs. But also, I refuse to contact him first, he should care to contact me. I will not crack first...I want him to crack..muahhhahaha...sorry:laugh: 1
Author Talulah Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 So, today I made plans for after my contract ends (which is in one month) and I can say that it triggered a reaction in me. I started to think of how mean he was to me towards the end of the break-up. I started to get angry and understand all the mean things he said to me. We both actually feel about the same way where we live, we've both been here longer than three years and want to get out. So now, I feel like I am in his shoes. I am going to be busy for the next month and a half and I see that he probably felt that way then. He was leaving first so, he made plans first. I guess down the road I have to see how I will feel. I guess the feeling might be mutual. I hope it's not because I still miss him and I hope that he misses me. If not now, then later. NC Day10
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