sdg Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Looking for a little advice I stumbled upon this site, and there seems to be so much great information, so I thought I would post my story. A few months back I posted on FB that I was finally moving back west from the East coast. That same night my buddy, who was getting married in May, called me to tell me how exited his fiancé was about my announcement. He mentioned she had a sister that lived in the area I was moving to and wanted us to meet at the wedding. At the wedding we seemed to hit it off… I got her phone number and we be began to exchange text. These conversations were always initiated by me. After a few times of asking her to hang out, and getting excuses as to why she couldn’t meet up, I pulled the plug and quit contacting her. (I have a habit of not putting much effort into these types of things.) A month went by and my Buddy and I went out for a few beers while he was in town visiting. He asked me what happened with his sister in law and I told him the story. He told me the same thing happened with him and his now wife, but he was persistent. He told me that their dad left their mother for another woman when they were in Jr high, so they may have some issues with men. A week later, and sober, I sent my buddy a text asking if he really thought that I should try a little harder. Less than 10 minutes later the girl text me apologizing for not getting back to me sooner and asking me to hang out soon. We set up a time to meet, after work, later in the week. Over the next few days we continued to text, she told me she was excited to see me. We also had phone conversation the night before our date. The date was initially just going to be dinner that I purposely scheduled on a work night to keep it short. The conversation just kept flowing, organically, just as we left off at the wedding. We ended up going to bar for a glass of wine so we could continue our talk. Time flew by, but unfortunately we both had to work the next day so we ended our night with a hug and plans to meet again soon. I text her as soon as I got home and told her what a great time I had. Over the next few days we continued text and agreed to meet for coffee later in the week. Our coffee date was the same as the dinner date; the conversation just flowed naturally and again ended in a hug. After coffee she sent me a text thinking me for the coffee and telling me how great it was to see me. Over the next few days she started to initiate more of our text conversations which made me feel like was finally getting somewhere… Our last conversation was going great until I told her I wanted to take her out this coming Friday. Sense then It’s been radio silent. From all the messages and conversations it seems like she’s interested, but the silence sends another message. So I ask you, Loveshack, what should I do? Any advice is appreciated.
hellischrome Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Well, you don't know if she has issues - maybe she has an history, maybe not ready for something more serious, we don't know at all. Just wait for it, if she wants to see you she will come to you. Of course don't lose your mind, if you wanna ask her just text her, but don't push it I'd say, wait a couple of days and then action.
Chief Wiggum Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Depends how long that silence has been. When did you send that message? Also, up until the silence, how often were you texting one another?
Author sdg Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Good point, I don't know if issues exist, I only know the older sisters story. We were in the middle of a back and forth conversation when she suddenly stopped texting. I'll wait a couple days and see what happens...
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