PunkPuffin Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hi guys, further to my previous post. So I broke up with my long term fiance over a week ago now, and I have felt so much more better within myself - but also really down about the whole situation - which I guess is to be expected... confusion. I'm angry at myself that I have broken his heart and I feel like a total b*tch. I think I have come to the conclusion that it is not what I want right now and as much as he says to me he wants me in his life, as his life partner and to have me forever, I just dont think I do feel the same right now. But this doesn't stop how much I care about him and love him. But I guess I'm not IN love with him?? I'm still paranoid that I could be making the worst decision of my life but I need to figure this out for myself. He now states that he cant ever see me again or speak to me, as it is too hard for him and he will need to move on. I suppose this is the part I can't really deal with, as I care for him 100% and want to be in his life but if it isn't what he wants, then I guess I will have to try and deal with this. He is coming over to get his stuff this week and move out completely. Gah..... life.
Exitleft Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hi guys, further to my previous post. So I broke up with my long term fiance over a week ago now, and I have felt so much more better within myself - but also really down about the whole situation - which I guess is to be expected... confusion. I'm angry at myself that I have broken his heart and I feel like a total b*tch. I think I have come to the conclusion that it is not what I want right now and as much as he says to me he wants me in his life, as his life partner and to have me forever, I just dont think I do feel the same right now. But this doesn't stop how much I care about him and love him. But I guess I'm not IN love with him?? I'm still paranoid that I could be making the worst decision of my life but I need to figure this out for myself. He now states that he cant ever see me again or speak to me, as it is too hard for him and he will need to move on. I suppose this is the part I can't really deal with, as I care for him 100% and want to be in his life but if it isn't what he wants, then I guess I will have to try and deal with this. He is coming over to get his stuff this week and move out completely. Gah..... life. It's ok, this is what you need and that is what he will need to do to cope with this outcome. Go NC and give the both of you some space. If it's meant.. good luck!
Tim_1122 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I agree with the previous poster. I think the only way to figure out if you want him as a fiance and husband is to spend some time away. Absense makes the heart grow fonder or absense makes the heart wander. From time to time people do get confused as to what they want. It seems like you did the amicable thing, so if in the future you realize he is the one for you, hopefully he can take you back.....if he is still available.
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