everafter13 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half about a month ago. I've had feelings for his friend and college roommate for a while now, but that was not the reason for breaking up. I haven't told anyone about my feelings for my ex's friend, when should I? What's the appropriate time frame between relationships? How long should I wait to start hoping to get together with someone else, while respecting my past relationship? My case is more difficult, because my ex is my crush's roommate and friend. I don't want to hurt my ex even more, but I'm crazy about this other guy.
Tinie Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 It depends on the individual, how much time you need to get over an ex. With some people it takes little time. Some others it takes lots.
Floridita Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Does this guy even want to go out with you? He's not much of a friend to your ex if he does, honestly.
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half about a month ago. I've had feelings for his friend and college roommate for a while now, but that was not the reason for breaking up. I haven't told anyone about my feelings for my ex's friend, when should I? What's the appropriate time frame between relationships? How long should I wait to start hoping to get together with someone else, while respecting my past relationship? My case is more difficult, because my ex is my crush's roommate and friend. I don't want to hurt my ex even more, but I'm crazy about this other guy. Really depends on the situation. My ex and I have been split for almost two years now. After about three months, I thought I might be ready for a date. Actually, someone asked me out and I said, "Well, that sounds pretty cool. Let's go." After a couple days but before our date I got the overwhelming feeling that I was not ready. I told her and she flipped out, so I decided not to seek or allow anything for over a year or so. Exactly a year after our break up I felt I wasn't totally over my ex yet and I had a little episode, I guess you could call it; nothing violent, or damaging...just emotions I had to get off my chest. Long story short, sometimes its good to just take time for yourself and heal and be sure you've moved on. That's not a set number in common with anyone, but something you have to figure out.
Archgirl Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I meet a guy one week after being dumped by my boyfriend of 6years. Was the best medicine. That said, your ex is totally not going to thank you for it so be prepared for some drama. 1
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I meet a guy one week after being dumped by my boyfriend of 6years. Was the best medicine. That said, your ex is totally not going to thank you for it so be prepared for some drama. Yeah, sometimes part of healing is getting out there and talking to some new people. Preparedness for drama is key.
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 there's never a right time for it, male bonding being what it is will ensure your feelings will always take a back seat, you might get in on some 'action' but then prepare to get dumped soon after They have chess? No way! May have to check that out.
aloneinaz Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 If you feel you're ready to date then date. Dumpers typically start to date quicker than dumpees. Why? Because they were checking out of the relationship before it ended both emotionally and physically. Dumpee's take longer to jump back on the horse. My ex ended our toxic relationship. I was pretty screwed up even though I knew she wasn't right for me (or anyone else) long term. I saw her on a dating site 6 days after we broke up and it REALLY pissed me off. After two weeks, I got mad. I said why am I upset about a woman who didn't want me in her life anymore after 1.4 years and starting looking for my replacement so quickly. I rejoined two dates sites and have been dating since. IT HELPS!! I met a girl Sat night that I REALLY like. Now when I think of my ex, I just think of what a mistake she was and am pissed that I didn't dump her when I discovered what an angry, nasty bitch she was.
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