changed92 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Right before my daughter turned 2, I started having an affair. The affair lasted one year before d-day. After that we would still see each other. OM eventually divorced, and I moved out a year ago, but we haven't filed. I ended up leaving OM because everything seemed so hard and hopeless with him. We were always fighting to be together, and I finally gave up. Still married, but living separately..... I meet an amazing man. He is everything I'd ever want in a partner. Divorced with children, religious, hard working, earns a great living, and treats me like a queen. I've never experienced this kind of thing before and I am very much in love with him. I'm working on getting my divorce now, which my H doesn't want. He wants to stay married. Says I'm the love of his life and we're meant to be. Part (a very small part) wants to stay married to him, so I can see my daughter daily and she can have her holidays, and birthdays with both her parents. The other part of me is ready to sign papers, and move on. As amazing as the guy is that I'm seeing.... and how easy and happy things can be with him, I am struggling with everything. I want to see and be with my daughter every day. Everyone says it's worth it in the end. If your child can see you happy. But I just want her every day. She's only 4 and I hate that I've spent so many nights away from her this last year. I just need advice. I wanted her to see me happy, and be ok with it all. But my H tells her things, and she feels responsible for his happiness. It's all so complicated. I'm about to just stay married, and make the best of it. I just don't want to f%$k her up.
marqueemoon4 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Hm.. you don't think having 3 different relationships with different men is going to mess her up? You seem confused and disloyal. Maybe you should get some IC to figure out why you are doing this. We're all human and make mistakes but seems like you are messing up a lot of people's lives due to your issues.
beach Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 It may be useful for you to go an extended amount of time without any man. Have you ever been on your own? Men should not define you - yet you jump around like you're scared you won't have a backup plan. There's NO way to make any relationship great when you're constantly distracted by attention from other men. Be on your own. Show your daughter you can be happy and strong. 1
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