creighton0123 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I started seeing who I consider to be a wonderful guy about two weeks ago. Since then, things have progressed... intensely... to the point where it is turning me off. He texts in the morning, calls over his lunch break, calls or texts on his way home from work, and calls at night once or twice. He also insists on seeing one another at least four times a week. I want to tell him without potentially driving him away. He's a great guy, but there is theoretically so much time to spend together. It doesn't all have to be at once... Today is a perfect example. I wanted to see him, but he called me at 9AM before I was awake. He called again at 1PM when he knew I was going to be out with my sister for lunch. I then had to do a bunch of work. He insisted he come over and bring me dinner while I was working, so I instead insisted we meet out for half an hour for a quick dinner and then I went to the office. Afterwards, I went to do some daily exercise and he texted right when I was going to start and then called when I was just about done. It's all so very much. Would you all consider it a major red flag?
Eggplant Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 You've only been seeing him 2 weeks, which is too early to generalize that he wants to see you 4 times a week. Do you like him? Try being gracious. Tell him that you'd love to talk later, but you're busy with xyz. Ask him politely not to wake you up in the morning.
nescafe1982 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Lay down some boundaries, gently. If he can't respect them, then we're talking a major red flag. Right now it might be an awkward attempt at enthusiasm.
Author creighton0123 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Lay down some boundaries, gently. If he can't respect them, then we're talking a major red flag. Right now it might be an awkward attempt at enthusiasm. I think I'll do that. On the flip side, I just realized that I might be the one giving off red flags... if I were in his position, I would feel as though the person I was dating was trying to be distant or emotionally disconnected...
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