virtual Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 There's a guy I work with who I dated briefly. Unfortunately, we had bad timing and things didn't happen. I had to experience the whole awkward thing because I would see him at work. That became better once we began speaking again. Things actually got better and we're sort of friends. Here's my dilemma, I'm about to finish my job because I was on contract. I want to continue to be friends with him and want to ask him if that's possible. I will admit that I still have feelings for him but I would settle for friends any day. I'm not sure how he feels? We seem to hit it off as friends better anyways. Is this a good thing to do?
Papillon Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Friends = wonderful. Focus on that, and the rest will fall into place. I am going to bed now.
Anegada Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 I agree. There's nothing wrong with being friends. You only dated briefly and like you said things seem to have worked out.
Author virtual Posted October 21, 2004 Author Posted October 21, 2004 Thanks for advice. Do you think this would be inappropriate. I actually want to talk to him alone because no one at work knows we dated' because it was brief it just wasn't something that I told anyone. As result I wanted to ask him about being friends away from everyone else when I do have to do the good-bye thing with all my colleagues. Should I ask him to step outside with me for a quick second? Should I just write him a note on the whole friends/good-bye thing?
Miss Perfection Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Bad timing? please explain. Did you just get out of a relationship? If yes, I have something to say about this.....
Miss Perfection Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Bad timing? please explain. Did you just get out of a relationship? If so, I have something to say about this.....
Author virtual Posted October 21, 2004 Author Posted October 21, 2004 It's the other way around. He wasn't ready to get involved in a relationship again even though we did go out together. It's been months since the last date and slowly we've started at least speaking again. I will admit that I avoided him for a while and figured it would get better if I just said something to him....otherwise, it would just remian strange working with him. Now it seems better. So now I want to continue to reamin friends since we always have gotten along and he appears to enjoy talking to me again. I'm also going to be leaving my place of employment in short time so I wouldn't mind keeping in touch not dating anyways.
Anegada Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Definitely speak to him in person. A short note may leave the wrong impression. If you want to continue being friends then a note really does seem a little "mixed messaged". I can see his thoughts now - "you mean you want to continue being friends but cannot just come out and say it to my face". Actually speaking with him also provides you the opportunity to gauge his reaction and allows you to adjust the tone/message of your conversation accordingly.
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