catgirl Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 ok heres my problem need a guys point of view here...went out with this guy who is seperated like me for the last 6 months.....we went out twice and spent like 10 hours together e ach time had a great time just talking and getting to know each other..last night we talked for 2 hours and his life is a little messy atm so he wanted to have a face to face talk about his past(nothing bad he said)just remember he said "i have a sofe heart and you will understand all this.....then i get home to an email Hi well busy day not over yet, I am going to the school this evening for paul ,have to attend a parent teacher meeting concerning pauls trip to toronto , I f I do not go to meeting he will not be able to take the trip. I am also very sorry tosay I will not be going for coffee. I want to be straight up with you , on my situtation, but well my life is a litle messy right now, this has nothing to do with you, you are a wonderful lady. you will probably hate me for this but well I cannt play games so I am saying straight up that I can be a friend but nothing more for now. I Do not want to play games never did before so honesty is my best policy, I am sure you will want to kick my ass, I probably ****ed up a good thing with this mail to you, I am sorry I think you are a great person , and hope I do not end up in your ignore list.... Sorry for this , but untill I see where my present life is going , I'm not going to take this further... I think you are a great person, and If I do not see you on msn I have lost a good friend and who hows what else , but I need to say what I have said , so you see straight up that this is where I am so heres my question guys.....how should i take this.......maybe hes afraid? should i be his friend and see what happens he doesnt want to start a relationship with me till he has everything meaning him freed up.. his words....we really hit it off so im not sure what happened in the last 24 hours....im stumped on this one..help!!!
sunlight Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 There are tons of other people out there, do not wait around for others to organize their lives. Goal- to feel at the very least I am important, you will not be important to him, therefore NEXT.
bluechocolate Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 how should i take this.......? Just how he put it. He wants to sort some sh*t out before getting seriously involved with someone. Fair enough. If more people did that the LS people wouldn't need bigger servers! You went out twice, so whilst you may be disappointed, it shouldn't be a big deal, right? His email sounded sincere enough. My guess would be that if he was trying to let you down softly he wouldn't have been so open about how things are for him right now. If you like the guy then try being friends for now & see how things develop in the future.
Author catgirl Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 tkx we talked for hours last night and he did say "I met you I like you, want to get to know you first , and well finish the other things in my life as well , then I am free to be with you" he is a very sweet guy and its not a big deal but we did make a connection we both know it....so im a little confussed is all.. and guys understand guys better then girls understandind guys..you guys think so different then we do...and were bot h done with our exes no going back! its over on both ends for both of us....
max Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 sounds like he's in my exact same shoes, maybe he even has taken things further. I too am separated, I want friends and companionship, and even sex. I am afraid to do any of these things because my wife would probably find out, and would take this as a really bad sign. I want my marriage to work and will do what I need to, to that end. I still need my needs met, such as I stated above, I suspect I dont have enough nerve to step out, and if I did go that far, I may have met someone, like you two have, and really liked her, about the time things were going to progress, I might/probably back out for fear of what it would do to the marriage. I hope it helps
Author catgirl Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 we both ended our marragies..theres no going back for me or him.....hes done with his ex and im done with mine its not that.....and hes the type of guy that doesnt just go out and get sex..hes a rare breed true gentlemen and shy to boot.....we didnt even kiss untill second date and that was a goodnight one......when we first went out told him i wasnt looking for a serious relationship wanted to go and have fun but i dont do casual sex either and neither does he...maybe we hit it off to good were the same in alot of ways how we think and we can talk for hours like we have known each other for years.....
Author catgirl Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 oh and when we first went out we both made it clear we were threw with the exes.....im hoping hes true to his feelings as he said "I met you I like you, want to get to konw you first , and well finish thew other things in my life as well , then I am free to be with u" his words told him i dont play games and just be honest with me....we both went threw a bad time and a little gun shy i guess.....
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