Tim_1122 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Good Evening all, will try and keep it short. I was dating a girl for 18 months and she abruptly called it quits a week ago. I had been questioning various things the last 3 months or so (lock on phone, girls night out and not hearing from her, etc.). The most recent questioning involved the ex husband and father to her 4 year old girl. I was very understanding that he would always be around, but i felt recently it had become too much. For example while I was working, I find out from her daughter that "daddy was over today with mommy." I had also heard from her that "mommy and daddy will live together again one day." I brought this up and she said "I can't believe you don't trust me." Then broke up with me. In the past week I come into contact with one of her ex's and although I was led to believehe was abusive, controlling and a bad guy, he turns out to be just like me. He was dumped as well after questioning the relationship with her exhusband. Her car was spotted late at night there by one of his friends and when confronted, of course she denied. This guy also caught her and her exhusband hanging out while he would watch her daughter. When confronted she said they were "discussing parental issues." Turns out he was right in the end, she did get back with her exhusband only for that to last a month, then I came into the picture. For you all, I will limit it here. I know the obvious here is she went back once again, even though she denies to everyone. Can people be this cold as to basically use someone and drop them more like a habit than someone you dated for a year and a half? I feel like I was used to feed her ego and had the nerve to tell people "we were casually dating for 18 months." I feel pathetic and for her to move on like this just demostrates a unique ability to show no emotion, no true love (although the words were spoken), just basically void of all human emotions like empathy and affection. She to this day is the coldest person I have ever dated. I do miss her little girl. She asked for me to still be in her life, but I felt that to be very selfish amd will only confuse the little girl.
for666 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 when it come's to family you are noting sory to tell it but if a women keeps a close ex husband contact something not dead there its a RED flag but i cant blame you she deceived and used you it must be vary hard but you cant do thing about it just move on nicely maby she gonna be more happy with her husband and the kid gonna be happy 2 if you love her let her be some time its the right thing... even do it's f pain full and don't blame her she maby loved you but she can love her kids more and if the kids happy with daddy than man ... don't destroy it and don't blame her its her emotions and well (you kinds of used her 2??? didn't you f a MILF?) just let go if its right for both of you she can come back if not well maby she gonna be happy there more
todreaminblue Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 hey tim, I am sorry this has happened to you, sometimes you wont know what makes any person do what they do, or why some treat others with disdain and coldness........you have to let it go....and realize not all women are like this and move on you are right it would confuse the little girl to stay in her life....as a mother .....she needs to concentrate on that little girl, having men coming in and out of her life isnt good.....i hope she does.....her first priority, has to be her daughter........lets hope she has maternal instinct present and alive and kicking....where she lacks empathy........i wish you the best and hope the healing time is smooth as it can be for you..best wishes...deb
Chi townD Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Sorry dude, but it sounds like she's on her Ex husbands timeline. Seems like she cools her heel with anyone and when the Ex shows a little interest again, she tosses whoever she's with to the curb. She never got over her Ex. Time too heal and move on. Put her in your rear view mirror. 1
happydate Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Good Evening all, will try and keep it short. I was dating a girl for 18 months and she abruptly called it quits a week ago. I had been questioning various things the last 3 months or so (lock on phone, girls night out and not hearing from her, etc.). The most recent questioning involved the ex husband and father to her 4 year old girl. I was very understanding that he would always be around, but i felt recently it had become too much. For example while I was working, I find out from her daughter that "daddy was over today with mommy." I had also heard from her that "mommy and daddy will live together again one day." I brought this up and she said "I can't believe you don't trust me." Then broke up with me. In the past week I come into contact with one of her ex's and although I was led to believehe was abusive, controlling and a bad guy, he turns out to be just like me. He was dumped as well after questioning the relationship with her exhusband. Her car was spotted late at night there by one of his friends and when confronted, of course she denied. This guy also caught her and her exhusband hanging out while he would watch her daughter. When confronted she said they were "discussing parental issues." Turns out he was right in the end, she did get back with her exhusband only for that to last a month, then I came into the picture. For you all, I will limit it here. I know the obvious here is she went back once again, even though she denies to everyone. Can people be this cold as to basically use someone and drop them more like a habit than someone you dated for a year and a half? I feel like I was used to feed her ego and had the nerve to tell people "we were casually dating for 18 months." I feel pathetic and for her to move on like this just demostrates a unique ability to show no emotion, no true love (although the words were spoken), just basically void of all human emotions like empathy and affection. She to this day is the coldest person I have ever dated. I do miss her little girl. She asked for me to still be in her life, but I felt that to be very selfish amd will only confuse the little girl. She never forgave her exhusband, so she's a ping pong. Her trait is Miss Nice Girl. Probably gave you all the love, kisses, hugs and sex to confuse you. Bad mouth everyone of the guys she dated before she went back to her ex again. You found out now that people she badmouthed aren't that bad as she described. It's her way to punish her ex. Sadly, her ex is the victim cause his relationship with his girlfriend won't be normal. Both are battling each other who's going to get the girl or guy and who's dumping who. The sad part is that, she's teaching her daughter exactly to become a female player. I was a victim once of this type of girl. She's smooth, super affectionate etc.. Next time I meet this type of girl again; it's the wet sex I'm after as they are easy to get laid and super fun to screw around if you know how to push her buttons!
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