Echo000 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 My ex and I had been talking after 4 months of solid NC..things were mixed but overall positive and we were talking about meeting up when i went back up where she lives when school starts again. Very flirty, saying she misses me and wants to see me and is in love with me. Long story short, just two days ago i get a text saying, "I am moving to Massachusetts, it was decided yesterday and i want to see you before i leave" Since then, we talked on the phone about it for 15 minutes and she truly is leaving. Just like that. Out of no where. I told her i love and support her, but must block her and move on because there is no hope now. She pleaded via text to not block her and to see her before she leaves, but i said i am sorry but i cant. I have since blocked her by every means possible- cellphone, emails, fb- hardest thing i ever have had to do. Accepting this is all over. Any one been through this? So surreal. So sudden. I was not ready for all this and i feel scared and hurt and lost and deeply saddened. I am still trying to squash any tiny irrational hopes i have that she will change her mind/somehow contact me. Its AWFUL help please i need it
eleve82 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Are you absolutely serious? You're acting like she's died and gone to a different dimension - she moved across the COUNTRY and "there's absolutely no hope now"? So all the people in LOng distance relationship - they are nursing a dead relationship? Please stop being so dramatic. An ex leaving the country may not mean she doesn't see any future whatsoever with you. I've known couples who ended u marrying and first started out dong LDRs across CONTINENTS - it took lots of hard work and dedication but its not impossible. I left the country and moved halfway across the world not because I gave up on my ex but because I needed HIM to be the one to make decisive changes to his life after I made huge sacrifices to stay in his country. Do you get the point? Frankly, it's not the distance that will make the difference here - it's your attitude and the problems that were in the relationship to begin with. Also it seems like your ex is much more open minded and adventurous than you - if you only see your whole life living in whichever state you are currently in, while she has bigger ambitions, you two will not make it over a lifetime. open your mind to see the possibilities ahead of you- if you deem it so, anything is possible. Just some friendly advice from someone whose ex has moved continents to be with me and explore the country (it wasn't just for me) and I've lived on 3 different ones.
Talulah Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 My ex has moved out of the country and will be moving halfway around the world next month. He is in a part of his life where he is traveling and needs to focus on himself. So, yea, I feel the pain. But it's probably for the best.
Author Echo000 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Are you absolutely serious? You're acting like she's died and gone to a different dimension - she moved across the COUNTRY and "there's absolutely no hope now"? So all the people in LOng distance relationship - they are nursing a dead relationship? Please stop being so dramatic. An ex leaving the country may not mean she doesn't see any future whatsoever with you. I've known couples who ended u marrying and first started out dong LDRs across CONTINENTS - it took lots of hard work and dedication but its not impossible. I left the country and moved halfway across the world not because I gave up on my ex but because I needed HIM to be the one to make decisive changes to his life after I made huge sacrifices to stay in his country. Do you get the point? Frankly, it's not the distance that will make the difference here - it's your attitude and the problems that were in the relationship to begin with. Also it seems like your ex is much more open minded and adventurous than you - if you only see your whole life living in whichever state you are currently in, while she has bigger ambitions, you two will not make it over a lifetime. open your mind to see the possibilities ahead of you- if you deem it so, anything is possible. Just some friendly advice from someone whose ex has moved continents to be with me and explore the country (it wasn't just for me) and I've lived on 3 different ones. I do get your point, but i dont know if you get mine. I am just not wanting a 3000 mile "friendship" with a girl i still love and have strong feelings for. There were many problems, and we were going to meet up this upcoming fall and see if those problems could eventually be worked out. We were going to try and be friends and see if there was more there potentially in the future. So her leaving is the end of that. Neither of us is going to do long distance, we arent even together now and agreed we needed to see how it would go before even trying to be together-- that was when we lived in the SAME state. We arent going to be able to do that now while in opposite coasts. So honestly, its not dramatic at all. It means the end of a relationship-- my first love actually. And its hard, i am fine because we arent even together anymore,, but we had potential hopes and dreams. But thats life.
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