ConnorD20132 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 So I started messaging this girl on facebook, we have a mutual friend, and I thought it would be cool to talk to her and eventually work out a date or something. Her latest message was really short, and I'm sort of at a lack of ideas for what to say or do, as she isn't giving me a whole lot to work with: __________________________________ Me: By chance do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Her: A bajillion pounds Me: I suppose that would be enough to break the ice. Her: Haha yeah, I think so!! Me: Sorry, If I knew anything cheesier, I would of said that instead. You work at ** A College **? What do you do there? Her: Ya I'm gonna be working at the ** Chapel ** there! Me: Sounds awesome, and you seem enthusiastic about it. I'm taking a wild guess and saying they didn't hire you to give sermons on Sundays, so what will you be doing there? Her: Haha noo, I'm going to be a tour guide and learn everything ever about ** The Guy who the place is dedicated to ** Me: Little known fact, **The Guy the school was named after** was in seven Sororities and was a wicked-awesome surfer. Say that during your first tour, and thank me later for how many people will commend you on your encyclopedic-like knowledge of ** The Guy the school was named after **... I was trying to think of a clever way to transition this into a question about what kind of music you like, but I couldn't find a way for the life of me... So what kind of music do you like? Her: Haha I'll be sure to do that. I'll just go ahead and admit that I have bieber fever. I also like bon iver, kings of Leon, timeflies and just lots of stuff! Me: I like how your super enthusiastic about everything, even if it's about Bieber, haha. How about Florence and the Machine, Stateless, or Hugo? I think I linked a song in this message. It may not be featuring Bieber, but it's still pretty good. **Hugo's song, Bread and Butter linked in message ** Her: I do like Florence and the machine. And even though it wasn't the biebs, it did have interesting lyrics haha Me: You got two points for Bon Iver and Kings of Leon, but lost a point for Justin Beiber. However, you've net another point for Florence and the Machine. As for Hugo... yeah, he really likes buttered bread. *** 3 days pass, no response *** Me: Actually, I've heard some good covers of Beibers songs, so some of his lyrics arn't bad. In the end Beiber only costs you half a point. Honestly its nothing against him, but as a man I'm expected to dislike him passionately. He becomes sort of a secret sin like not watching football on Sundays or watching True Blood. Her: Everyone secretly likes bieber _____________________________________ As you can see, I feel like i've kind of lost her. Her reply was really short, and didn't give me much to work off of. I was hoping the convorsation would reveal a little more about her, but it hasn't. Anyone have any ideas, or can someone tell me what I did wrong? I've thought my next message should be something like: The points don't actually mean anything by the way, so you could lose a thousand and still be doing good. So far all I know about you is a few bands you like and where you work. So I want to try something real fast, a word association game kind of. I say something, and without thinking, you reply. Ready, go! **The name of the city where she lives**. ___________________ My fear is I may be coming across as too eccentric.
Star Gazer Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 There's no such thing as courting over Facebook. G-d help us all if we ever get to that point! ASK HER OUT, directly. Once you've got her in person, face-to-face, the courting can begin. 1
Author ConnorD20132 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 If I ever saw her in Person I would ask her out. Like I said, I know her through a mutual friend, and i've met her once before, but it's been a while.
clia Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Your next move is to get her phone number, call her, and ask her on a date. Wouldn't it be a lot more fun to have that conversation in person? Stop the incessant messaging. It's boring. 1
Author ConnorD20132 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Of course I don't plan on leaving it a Facebook conversation forever, but I don't want to ask her for her number until I feel like she would be comfortable giving it to me. Bear in mind we've only seen eachother in person once, and that was a little while ago. Over Facebook, or even texting, it's so hard to gauge a persons response, as written text doesn't do a good job conveying feeling. I've always struggled when it comes to texting or messaging; I'm much stronger in face-to-face interactions.
Author ConnorD20132 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Eh, you know what Clia, you're right. I need to stop being a panzy and just ask her for the number. Thanks, sometimes I over think things. ______________________- If everyone loves Beiber, than I suppose half of us are in denial about it. I would like to talk to you without having to log on to Facebook each time; Can I call or text sometime?
shexy Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Do you REALLY want to get involved with a girl that likes Justin Beiber? Think long and hard about that, young man.
Author ConnorD20132 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Just Beiber was a pretty hard hit, I agree, but she has redeeming qualities.
MidwestUSA Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 "Courting" via Facebook, I had to laugh. Be careful, I started out this way - a bunch of mutual friends, comments on the same posts, finally befriended him, he "stalked" my pix, blah, blah. We're married now (and he still stalks my pix, for the memories, LOL)
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