newground Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Hey, I need some advice. I have recently split with a girlfriend of 1.5 years. It was a mutual split. I have started a new job, 15 of us started at the same time. There is a gorgeous girl also in the same group. We started talking on the second or third day, and we got on really well. After about a week of chatting whilst working in a pair during training, it started to get a little flirty. She would ask questions like what I am doing tonight, or at the weekend. and she seems to tell me a lot about her private life. She also mentioned a guy who she was seeing who treated her badly. Its been a month or so since we started the job, sometimes we don't get to sit with each other, for example somebody else is sat at the desk next to me. When this happens she will tell me shes missed me that day. She often says things like "What would I do without you at work". Anyway, I added her on facebook and started chatting to her, we teased each other and had banter for a while. Then one evening she hadn't replied. I thought it was strange but figured I would just talk to her in work the next day. The next day she had explained that she had ran out of Internet usage on her phone contract and offered me her number instead, so we exchanged numbers and she sent text after work that day saying she still couldn't get any internet. We have been texting since. I have asked her if she wants to get together after work one day and she said "that sounds ideal". But now its always me who starts the conversations. We still chat in work, but we don't see each other as much now. And today she had put her hand over my hand while controlling the mouse. But I feel that some of her texts are very short and I get the feeling she doesn't want to talk. I sent her a text after work this evening, she replied with lengthy texts at first but then she only seems to be replying with the bare minimum. So I asked her if anything was wrong, because she didn't seem to be acting herself, then in the same message I said I was gonna go to bed soon but said she can text me tomorrow if she wants to. She replied to that text saying "Yeah im fine just tired. Night xxx" Am I just being paranoid about this girl? What should I do? Wait to see if she texts me tomorrow? I'm quite a confident guy and I am tempted to simply outright ask her if she likes me, but the last thing I want is to make it awkward for her at work.
hoping2heal Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Can anyone help? Yes, she is already in a relationship with someone else. Leave it alone.
Author newground Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 She's single, I wouldn't be bothering otherwise.
Eggplant Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 She also mentioned a guy who she was seeing who treated her badly.So she's not available?
KathyM Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 It wouldn't hurt to ask her if this guy she is seeing is something serious, or are they supposed to be exclusive. If they are serious and exclusive, then I suggest you back off and respect that. If she's just dating the guy with no promises or commitment or exclusivity, then ask her out for a drink after work. Don't ask her if she likes you. That would be lame.
Author newground Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 "Was" is past tense. With all due respect I asked for advice, not hurrdurr replies.
Eggplant Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 (Your past tense was ambiguous. It sounded as though at the time she was talking to you she was in the process of seeing somebody...) Assuming she's not seeing anybody else, then she's bored with texting. She wants a date.
nescafe1982 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Call me old fashioned, but texting just seems like the worse way to flirt with someone ever! So much ambiguity, "what does this smiley/that choice of adjective mean? I know if says x, but what. does. it. meeeeeaaannn?" sorry to make light of your situation, OP. I might advise you reconsider asking a coworker out (or that you at least consider what that might mean for your job), but otherwise, if you like her: ask her on a real date. Sans texting. Worst she can say is no thanks, right? 1
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