writergal Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I'm 29 yes old enough to know better ... I had was drunk enough to be a motor mouth but by no means needed a baby sitter ! Um, really? When one reaches the "motor mouth stage" of drunk levels, that is soon followed by the "gravity has taken over my body and I can't stand up" stage, which is concluded by the "now I'm going to mime a sack of potatoes, who wants to carry me to the taxi since I'm enjoying semi-conciousness now *hiccup* stage." Being drunk is a 3-act play as Shakespeare wrote several illustrating this fact. By no means eh? Okay. I'll take your word for it ellie! lol! I hope you didn't drive yourself home. It's too bad this happened. But the guy isn't worth your worrying time as it's over and done with. Move on and find someone else to date.
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 I've actually never been that drunk I needed carried home .. Of course I didn't drive .. All I wanted to know was whether anyone thought the situation was repairable
SmileFace Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I've actually never been that drunk I needed carried home .. Of course I didn't drive .. All I wanted to know was whether anyone thought the situation was repairable He told you he didn't feel the same about you. There is nothing to fix. What are you going to ask him - if you can wait for him to get feelings? 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I don't know what else I can tell you .. I'd been out with this guy seven times he's so nice every time he tells me how perfect the date has been and how he can't believe we're so well matched on the monday we had this perfect night I said I guess I won't see u till the weekend because ur working and I had have this work party he said let me pick u up I said no it will take u miles out of ur way he said no I insist because I want to see you .. He picked me up at 11 and came in for a coffee .. He was very affectionate and I know I was talking too much and loud etc dues to drinking I know I mentioned my ex I shouldn't have and I know I told him I liked him ... But he left saying ill come down and well go for lunch Saturday but then Friday night came and I I heard nothing ... Then sat morning I received a text saying ur beautiful and in some ways were perfect but u gave me the impression ur feelings for me are stronger than mine are for you and maybe your to amazing a person to hurt so maybe it's best not to move forward ? This guy's running game, it doesn't even matter knowing this information. He's not looking for anything deep or significant, that's why you backed him off with your confession...he's looking for a good time and to hook you emotionally, until now it was still a challenge...he's trying to swoon you. He's overwhelming you with attention, flattery and charm. He's openly stating that he will hurt you and is testing your boundaries right now because you just shown him your cards...this guy will drop you after he's used you up...he will not be transparent about his feelings or agenda grandmother than the Prince charming facade...expect to play games and have your feelings hurt and whisked around...move on or get played...choice is yours. 3
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 He was the one on Monday said it was perfect and he was loving where it was going .. It was only after Thursday night and my drunk ness he decided he didn't feel the same
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 This guy's running game, it doesn't even matter knowing this information. He's not looking for anything deep or significant, that's why you backed him off with your confession...he's looking for a good time and to hook you emotionally, until now it was still a challenge...he's trying to swoon you. He's overwhelming you with attention, flattery and charm. He's openly stating that he will hurt you and is testing your boundaries right now because you just shown him your cards...this guy will drop you after he's used you up...he will not be transparent about his feelings or agenda grandmother than the Prince charming facade...expect to play games and have your feelings hurt and whisked around...move on or get played...choice is yours. I don't think he's like that's genuinely don't I really believe he is a good guy if I thought he was a player I'd walk away
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Auto type just owned my @ss...other = grandmother
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I don't think he's like that's genuinely don't I really believe he is a good guy if I thought he was a player I'd walk away He just hit the mark big time for me, classic techniques here....this all makes perfect sense to me now as a big picture instead of just trying to understand this weird scenario but it adds up now....I have no further questions your honor...time for sleep! 1
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Thanks Jon, I sent a text today just asking how he was no reply so I think I have my answer.. I'd just like him to know that the other night was a one off and I'm still the girl he met on Monday night
Drseussgrrl Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Thanks Jon, I sent a text today just asking how he was no reply so I think I have my answer.. I'd just like him to know that the other night was a one off and I'm still the girl he met on Monday night Why are you texting a man who told you he didn't want to date you anymore? Have some self-respect, woman! When a man dumps you, you cut him off. 6
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Because I think he's got me wrong and I want to explain or make amends so he knows I'm the girl he thought I was
writergal Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 If he got you wrong, then was he the right guy to begin with? Why would you want to prove to someone who doesn't like you, that you are the right girl? That is a losing battle my friend. Find a guy who you don't need to prove yourself to; who you could get tipsy in front of, motor mouthed, sloshed 3 sheets to the wind drunk, who will still like you anyway.
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 I just feel I let myself and him down and I wanna make it right
charlietheginger Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Sounds like he is a guy that does not like drama
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 I agree but I'm not drama I just made a mistake
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I agree but I'm not drama I just made a mistake Are you sure he wasn't looking for a way out already and just used this situation as a convenient excuse? People who fly off the handle over small things like that, either have some emotional issues, or have other motives. Was there anything in his recent behavior to indicate that?
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Absolutely not everytime we've been out he tells me it's so hard to leave that he can't wait till the next time. That were perfect together. Then after this night I get I think your feelings are stronger than mine and I think it best to leave it in many many many ways we are perfect but the other night showed me maybe were maybe not meant and I would hate to hurt u ur too beautiful a person for that but I'm in company at the min ill ring u and well get a proper chat about it. But he never rang
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Thanks forum lurker ... I genuinely do quite like him though .. I am not in love with him even though I may have given that impression in my wine fuelled haze.. Up until this all kicked off he had been fun, charismatic, gentlemanly and a laugh to be around. Seven dates in less than two weeks is a lot he knew I wasnt long out of a serious relationship and was so nice about that asking was I comfortable with the pace of everything and was I ok .. he said I had a lot of walls up which I did because I was a little scared so I started to drop them a little I probably shouldn't after a few drinks because it came across as more than how I felt. His turnaround came at the weekend when he text saying he thought in many ways we were perfect and I was beautiful but he wasnt so sure now after the other night if we were meant... Bottom line I would just love to fix it.. but im not sure how
KatZee Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 OP you need to start drilling in your head that it's nothing you did. You didn't put off a bad impression because you were drunk. You didn't make a mistake. You are starting to really like him, HE'S not looking for anything serious. It's not going to matter what you do, or don't do. He's not at that stage right now, he's not on the same level as you. There's nothing to fix here. The intensity of your feelings made him run, which is natural because it's only been 2 weeks. It was all fun and games until he realized you were falling, and he cut you loose. He's actually a good guy to do that, instead of continuing to "date" you, hook up with you, and use you. Maybe he got the impression you only wanted something casual and he was just going with it... but the second it got too much like a relationship, he cut it off. This happens quite frequently. Again, it has nothing to do with anything you did. You're entitled to your own emotions and to feel that you were liking him. You were honest, he doesn't feel enough to reciprocate right now. Just back off. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Ellie, You did nothing wrong. If he really liked you, you could have gotten so drunk that you threw up all over him and he would still ask you out. He was sweet talking you and then realized that he got in too deep (when you confessed feelings) so he used this situation as an excuse to leave. Please don't text him again. 1
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 I dont want anything serious hes just a lovely person I was enjoying getting to know even if only friendship came of it id hate to lose touch with him completely.
Author ellie10 Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Do he just text saying he was sorry and was I ok
SJC2008 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I wasn't there so I'm not going to sepculate if her "drunkness" is what got her dumped. But if it WAS I don't blame him. I don't buy and never will buy the "I was drunk" excuse. When you're drunk you're still you. I've been drunk, high, shyt faced. The only thing that changes about me when I drink is that I become more of myself. I'm more chatty, funny etc. I don't turn into angry drunk guy. I don't turn into emotional love stricken sap guy. I have a filter, even when I'm drunk. 1
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