NYCGuy22 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 OK...so I didn't follow one simple rule - Don't break NC! This weekend, I had to pack up all of her stuff and have some friends deliver it. I texted her to let her know it was coming (No big deal) - but then more texts started and before you know it, it went on hours of texting. I don't know what I was looking for. I was probably looking for some closure or some indication that she still cared. I kept reminding her how great things were and how she messed up by leaving. I kept rehashing the break up. All mistakes I know!!! It's been well over a month and I just can't seem to let go. I went NC for 8 days before this and was actually starting to feel better. Now I feel like crap again. I feel like the day of the breakup just happened all over. Does anyone else get caught in this trap? How long will I keep feeling this way? How the heck do I just let go and stop holding on to hope? I have never been such a mess in my entire life.
alphacub Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 There's no magical panacea, I'm sorry to say. You just keep living your life without her in it. I'm on month 10 of NC and I still miss him and it still sucks.
Author NYCGuy22 Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 Month 10??? It doesn't go away after 10 months??? Has your ex tried to contact you at all?
Spoonss Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Jesus 10 months and no contact and you feel that way still, to be honest that scares me a bit.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Month 10??? It doesn't go away after 10 months??? Has your ex tried to contact you at all? It takes differing amounts of time for differing people. But the quickest way to do it is to a) go NC and stick to it, stop caving and b) keep active and strive to better your lot in life in multiple ways. NC is absolutely worthless if you just sit around moping and staring at your phone hoping for a call or a text. You have to be active. 6
LosingHope0806 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I'm sorry you broke NC and are feeling as if the Break-up is occurring all over again! This pain will go away, and when it does you'll look back and be like why did I waste so much time.
Tenderheartbear Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 If I am still thinking about him and sad at 10 months NC...shoot me.
aloneinaz Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Most people feel MUCH better after a month of NC. I'm at 5 plus weeks of NC since break up. I've been dating for 2 weeks now. I was not in a good place for the first couple of weeks but seeing my ex rejoin a dating site made me pull my head out of my ass. I realized she wasn't worth sitting around and stewing over. I started online dating again. I enjoy the process the attention, the flirting, texting etc.. I've met a lot of nice women and slept with a few. I just met a girl last night that I'm Really excited about. She and I had the best chemistry since my ex and I. I'm hopeful her and I continue to connect and maybe it turns into more than dating. I'm just not a believer in sitting at home for months pouting over someone who didn't want me in their lives. F-that.. It's our choice how we move forward after a break up and being dumped. It's in our control.
sprucegoose Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Just start all over with NC. Trust me, it works and it will speed up your recovery. Can you imagine spending ten months of your ex stringing you along and getting nowhere OR ten months of NC and rebuilding your life?
Ethliz Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I broke NC, I'll regret it for the rest of my life. Before that I had some dignity now I'm just ashamed of what I did and said. We need to grow strong, have a heart of steel and keep in mind that the right person is waiting for us.... At least that's the way I feel at this very instant.
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