Author mmiller5373 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 In all honesty... try not to hold this one against her too much. I can 100% say that I have this double standard, this kind of thing really hurts me. Would gut me. If I were to do it, I would understand it was meaningless, and my ex would believe him if I told him it was meaningless. On the other hand, if he were to be with someone, the one thought that haunts me right now, I would analyze it and come to the most tragic conclusions. I obviously am very insecure somewhere, and this is a trigger for it. It is immature of me, and I perhaps need to work on this a great deal. I would say it is insecurity, or ego. If you can conclude that it is just her ego, she needs to grow up. If it is a result of insecurities, I would just try to reassure her, eventually she will listen. Lessica, My ex girlfriend has a lot of insecurities when it comes to trust, although she never wants to admit it. She sees herself as a perfect Christian woman and when she sins (we all do) she acts like the sin is okay because she's a good Christian woman. But when other people sin (like myself), they are evil. Examples: Drinking alcohol is bad (especially beer). But she can drink wine on special occasions. Having sex before marriage is bad, but we had sex all the time. Lying is wrong, but she can lie when it serves a purpose (trying to deceitfully get information). If I hang out with the opposite sex it's wrong, but for her it's okay. I think the insecurities come from her past. She apparently caught her father cheating on her mother. A few years later, my ex's first serious boyfriend cheated on her. They dated for 3 years and he apparently had another girlfriend the entire 3 years.
lessica Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Oh dear. All of that would be crazy to deal with in general. I can imagine this would be an issue that would be repeated over and over in her future relationships. Who wants to deal with someone that forces ideals on others and then looks down on them if they don't meet up. Let alone have to put up with the double standards of it all. It sounds like more than insecurities, it sounds like she is generally confused/bat****crazy. I don't know. But really, there is nothing that bothers me more than a person who forces their ideals and assumptions of to others. It is the opposite of freedom and rationality. And noone deserves to have to deal with that.
hotpotato Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 If she didnt like it, she shouldn't have broken up with you. Really simple. You are no longer beholden to her. Her hostility is her problem.
Author mmiller5373 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 If she didnt like it, she shouldn't have broken up with you. Really simple. You are no longer beholden to her. Her hostility is her problem. And that is why I am no contact.
Author mmiller5373 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 10 days no contact and feeling a lot better.
Author mmiller5373 Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 Stupidly, after a little more than one month with no contact... I contacted her through Facebook. We talked back and forth, and the conversations seemed to be pretty positive. A few days later, she texted me and asked me if I was in town, because she thought she saw me. I told her I was, but that she didn't see me because I was at my mom's house. Again, the conversations were positive... we even discussed being friends. A couple of weeks later, I text her... she doesn't reply till a few days later. She basically says we can't be friends. She brings up a couple of "flirty" comments I made to some female friends on Twitter (apparently she's still able to look at my tweets, despite the fact she isn't following me). We get into a fight and it pretty much ends on, "there is no way we are getting back together." Stupid me. Stupid me. Back to no contact I go.
Author mmiller5373 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 One month, no contact from either side. Trust me, I'm still thinking about her a lot, but I know contacting her will just make matters worse.
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