Very Long Story! But I promise it's worth it, lies, intrigue, sex and no happy ending

[gambit1]

I've lurked for a long while and got a lot of help from the stories here. This just happened to me and I thought I'd share for your enjoyment/horror/whatever else.

 

I dated a girl for almost 2 years and the last half was definitely a little rocky. I always treated her really well and put up with more bull**** than I should have. She ended up dumping me and I was pretty heart broken. That was about a year ago. I was kinda wondering what she'd been up to and I knew she used to frequent this one chat site, so being bored and morbidly curious about what she was up to I made an account and started chatting with her anonymously.

 

We were super flirty and had all the chemistry we had at the beginning of our relationship. I could tell she was pretty attracted to my persona. She started asking where I was from and I told her we were from the same city and she started hinting that she wanted to meet up as long as I didn't have a psycho ex or something.

 

I asked her if she did and she said her ex ex was crazy but she hadn't see him for years and that her last ex (me) was a good guy but just annoying. I delved deeper. She told me things she had never mentioned before while we were dating and some completely fabricated things that were the exact opposite of what actually happened and made me out to be the bad guy when she was the one would was borderline cheating.

 

I prompted her telling her I like to root for the underdog, and that if he was a genuinely good guy why not try to work it out. She said she probably would if the sex was better. OUCH! She said that I never made her orgasm and that I only lasted a few minutes. That I was small. DOUBLE OUCH! That even foreplay didn't do it for her.

 

Let me digress for a moment....

 

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Now that is harsh. The penis thing is patently untrue. I'm not huge but I think 7" and 5" girth is pretty normal sized. With regard to her orgasming I think she had some serious mental blocks because she had been sexual abused in the past. I tried to work with her on that and encouraged her to see a counselor, but she never did. I tried my darndest to show her a good time in bed. It's not like I didn't give a damn or wasn't trying.

 

I mean I would go down for on her for sometimes 60 minutes, I'd bring in toys, dirty talk, all sorts of exotic things to try and help her get there and I didn't press her, because I didn't want her to stress about it. I'd ask her to let me know what she really liked and wanted more of etc.

 

I'm confident the orgasm stuff was in her head, because I'd been with women before and after that were able to orgasm quite easily with me and were very satisfied with my performance in bed. Heck, the last girl jokingly asked why I didn't have a ring on it after our first time! LOL

 

I will admit when we had sex I did feel like I finished more quickly than I would have liked. She had a really sexy models body and "it" was perfect, so I was always super aroused and if she went at it hard it was difficult to last more than 5-10 mins. But by 10 minutes she'd complain to stop anyways because she would be getting sore. And it's not like I wouldn't give her some more oral and round 2 and 3 when I was ready again.

 

It's actually weird because I started seeing a girl a few months after we broke up and I could last 30-45 minutes with really aggressive sex, sometimes I wouldn't even finish at all and had to fake it because I was starting to hurt! Idk maybe it was just the connection I had with my ex since I was really into her that got me so much more excited so I couldn't last as long.

 

I know most of what she said was lies and utter crap, but it still hit me below the belt so to speak and is making me feel kinda self conscious about my skills in bed.

 

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Soooo, back to the story.

 

We had more witty flirting and she somewhat jokingly told me to come over and have dinner with her and cuddle (keep in mind, online persona doesn't know where she lives) Now I knew it was a bad idea, but she did just invite me (perhaps not knowingly) to dinner and I was kinda hungry....so knowing this would end poorly, but not really giving a crap I played along. I told her I'd be over shortly and she better have my food ready! To which she laughed. I then proceeded to actually go over there.

 

When I got there I texted her from the online persona saying I was there. She was like yeah, the doors open, come on in. So I go to the door and it's locked. I tell her no it's not open and I'm seriously outside waiting, she laughs thinking its still just banter, at which point the dog hears me and starts barking (dog loves me by the way). She texts the persona saying weird the dog just started barking when you texted me. Twenty seconds later she actually comes to the door to see what the dog is barking about. She sees me and is like, "Hey, how's it going? What are you doing here?" to which I tell her I came over for her dinner invitation.

 

She hasn't put it together at this point. Which I personally found somewhat hilarious.

 

She says, I'm sorry I must have texted the wrong person. That's embarrassing, sorry. To which I inform her, no you didn't make a mistake.

 

Let me be clear that she wasn't mad or anything, not really even surprised, in fact her body language, tone and demeanor were at ease and comfortable. My intent here wasn't to make her uncomfortable or upset her but rather call her out on her **** and I knew it was a fine line to walk, but I felt up to the task after all the lies she'd just handed my persona and it was something my pride/ego could not abide. I know some of you will think, OMG this guy sounds like an insane stalker!, but I can assure you I'm not, I'm a well adjusted person and would never hurt a fly. This just all played out in such an entertaining way I had to see it to the conclusion.

 

She still hadn't but it together at this point. To which I reiterate, you just invited me over for dinner and cuddles and I just texted you from the door. *waiting for it to sink in, but no dice* She checks her phone, I don't have any texts from you though.

 

She's not always the fastest, but in her defense it's certainly an unusual circumstance.

 

"You still haven't figured it out? You've been talking to someone for a few days. In fact, you're even starting to like him, he's witty and really nice to you." She is confused, "...how do you know that?" I reply, "Because I am witty and nice to you...because I am gambit..." Pause. Slowly it dawns on her and a big sheepish grin cracks her face, "OMG What!" She playfully hits me. I had successfully walked the fine line, she wasn't mad or creeped out. So with a smirk on my face, I say "First of all I don't have a small penis. And second of all, I think there are a few things we should discuss. Third, I"m really hungry so please go get me a plate." She agrees and we eat and have a drink and chat about the craziness of this endeavor and laugh about it.

 

We do get down to business though. I tell her that I remember the things she told my persona verry differently. So, how much of that was horse crap and how much of it was real. The things that were blatant lies she confessed she didn't know why she said it, but I think she likes being in the victim position, it's where she feels comfortable. There were five or six things that she had brought up from way far back in our relationship, that I either didn't even know about or that I thought we'd talked about and moved past. I told her that perhaps she needs to let it go, like she always told me when she messed up and deceived and hurt me on several occasions.

 

I should clarify, these weren't things I'd really messed up on or anything, it's hard to explain. One was her feeling like nothing in comparison to me because I'm significantly more successful and have my life pretty well put together. She told me that I never talked down to her or did anything to make her feel bad, but just being so successful made her feel like a complete failure. Or there was the first time she met my friends, when we just met, we weren't gf/bf yet and I introduced her as my friend and apparently she held on to that the whole time. That kind of stuff.

 

So we talked through all the stuff and I felt like a bunch of things were if not resolved at least addressed. I noted that she really seemed to have a bit of crush on my persona and she said maybe she did. I told that none of it was made up to trick her, that I am that person she has a crush on, its just that when she didn't know it was me, she didn't have all those those things she'd held on to for so long getting in the way of liking me. She said, I'm sorry but I still don't want to come back. And I said that's fine, I didn't think you would.

 

It wrapped up the few remaining nagging things I felt for her. I told her that the persona was going to disappear now and wouldn't be on the chat site so she could be herself there. That I was going to disappear as well. The only way she'd ever hear from me or see me again was if she called or we happened to run into each other somewhere in the city.

 

I told her I thought this would probably be the last time I ever saw her. To which she replied, "Maybe." I gave her a kiss which she weakly returned. I told her she could do better than that, which she did. We shared a real kiss one last time and I walked out the door and never looked back.

[SimonSerenade]

That was the best story I'd ever read, it really brightened up my day, thanks for that.

[Trimmer]

Seems like a happy ending to me...

[Sallygirl]

She handled this much better than I would have...

[gambit1]

@simon, Well I'm glad it helped cheer at least one person here.

 

@Trimmer, yeah probably for the best...for me at least. Karma already bit her big time shortly after we broke up and I imagine in will several more times to balance out all the cheating she did. But once she's squared up, I hope things work out for her. I think there is a insecure, scared, hurt girl in their that needs to heal before she will turn into a really nice woman.

 

@sallygirl, I know her better than anyone else on the planet, even better than her best friends. Someone needed to keep her honest, and I knew even at the worst she just would have been a little bit pissed at me. Believe me, this pales in comparison the to deceit she perpetrated during the relationship.