Haseo Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I dated this girl for a year and when exams came around she got really stressed out and needed space, i gave it to her but then it just continued, she said she needed time to figure herself out and sort out her own life. So i waited around more (i still lived my own life im not a puppy dog, i just made myself available and talked to her everyday) But more reasons came, like she needed to get over problems with her exes from the past before she can truly open up to me and it just started to seem like excuse after excuse. Several times i straight up asked her if she wanted to break up and she told me no. One day i told her i was done waiting and she had to fight for me for a change if she wanted me in her life, she said that she would but then the next day said she needed space and so i didnt talk to her for a week. When i asked what was going on between us she said she just needed time. Recently she said we should work at being friends first and she said that this wasnt as much of a break as it is about me moving on. She told me that she still sees a future with me it is just blurred, she said im an amazing person and all this other stuff that yes, i took with a grain of salt and thought of it as padding to not having saying we are breaking up. On that note, she never even said we are breaking up and when i mentioned breaking up she said "Does this mean we are breaking up?" which in my mind i thought (again) "Well...that seems to be where we are going" but i told her that we can just take some time. I deleted her off facebook yesterday, i couldnt handle her liking other guys photos and what not and i was checking it too often, i need to take some time to myself. She has given a million mixed signals and now i've been trying no contact for about a week but i dont know if that is the right idea, i've done this before and to be honest...its really different feeling this time. What do you guys think?
Nicoleiia Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Don't talk to her anymore. Implement NC and move on. If she comes back and gives you breadcrumbs, ignore her. You need to move on because she is not the girl for you.
Author Haseo Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 That seems a little grim. Perhaps true, but grim.
Author Haseo Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Im day 7 into NC and a few days ago i deleted her off of FB, i kind of regret this decision because i dont want her to think im very sour about everything because im not, i did it to move on. I just dont want to end up one of those stories i read on here all the time. I will talk to her again in time and break NC not in hopes of getting her back but in hopes of not having to remember her as something that i have hate for. If something is to budge it will be her, i refuse to cave and be weaker than i already am for posting here. But i am wondering if i should add her back on facebook or if that is a bad idea/what impression does that give.
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