CSD Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 OK so I joined this forum a few minutes ago cos I've decided to be humble and ask for help or at least better understand why my dating life sucks so bad right now. I've historically been successful with ladies and could proudly sing Jay Z's I got 99 problems but a chic ain't one. Recently got transferred by my company to another city and everything just seems to be falling apart. I recently met this gorgeous and intelligent professional woman at a happy hour and after a phone call or two we decided to go on a date. We had a great first date where we had great conversation and really just got to laugh and have a good time while getting to know each other. The second date was even better. We had a nice dinner followed by drinks at a very classy bar. Ended up kissing several times during the night: at her door, while having drinks, while walking to get a cab etc. She was clearly into me or so I thought. She told me not more than once how different I was from a lot of guys she had met. That was the end of the good times though. Was looking forward to an amazing third date when she bluntly tells me by text message that she only wants to be friends because she feels "no romantic connection at all". Thinking it was because I had acted like a gentleman and not tried to have sex immediately, I called and asked if she thought we wanted different things but she confirmed that she knew I wanted romance but all she could offer was friendship. She also made it very clear that she didn't want to see me again. I'm back in the game and already talking to someone else but sometimes I wonder why women treat guys this way. I'm going crazy here trying to figure out what I did wrong.
Balzac Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 The only thing you did "wrong" was contact her after the death knell text. You were fine up to that moment.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 So you get knocked back from one woman, whereas up til now you've been a stud with the ladies, and ask this >I wonder why women treat guys this way< Eh?! She didn't fancy you, what's not to get? OK so I joined this forum a few minutes ago cos I've decided to be humble and ask for help or at least better understand why my dating life sucks so bad right now. I've historically been successful with ladies and could proudly sing Jay Z's I got 99 problems but a chic ain't one. Recently got transferred by my company to another city and everything just seems to be falling apart. I recently met this gorgeous and intelligent professional woman at a happy hour and after a phone call or two we decided to go on a date. We had a great first date where we had great conversation and really just got to laugh and have a good time while getting to know each other. The second date was even better. We had a nice dinner followed by drinks at a very classy bar. Ended up kissing several times during the night: at her door, while having drinks, while walking to get a cab etc. She was clearly into me or so I thought. She told me not more than once how different I was from a lot of guys she had met. That was the end of the good times though. Was looking forward to an amazing third date when she bluntly tells me by text message that she only wants to be friends because she feels "no romantic connection at all". Thinking it was because I had acted like a gentleman and not tried to have sex immediately, I called and asked if she thought we wanted different things but she confirmed that she knew I wanted romance but all she could offer was friendship. She also made it very clear that she didn't want to see me again. I'm back in the game and already talking to someone else but sometimes I wonder why women treat guys this way. I'm going crazy here trying to figure out what I did wrong.
Chris516 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Some women are just downright weird. They can change moods, faster than someone like professional tennis pro Pete Sampras can make a tennis ball go 120mph on the court. So much so, the lady would make your head spin.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Err..so are some men. ie; people in general can be weird and have mood changes. It's not weird to decide you don't fancy someone, or don't fancy them enough to want to date them again, happens to us all. Some women are just downright weird. They can change moods, faster than someone like professional tennis pro Pete Sampras can make a tennis ball go 120mph on the court. So much so, the lady would make your head spin.
TMichaels Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Sorry, but how does all of this fit into a Long Distance Relationship scenario -- other than the fact that it sounds like this woman wants as much space as possible between you two when it comes to romance? Best, TMichaels 2
Chris516 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Err..so are some men. ie; people in general can be weird and have mood changes. It's not weird to decide you don't fancy someone, or don't fancy them enough to want to date them again, happens to us all. Yes, I know 'door swings both ways'. But in his situation, it sounds like she is very moody.
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