amoryvida Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Hi so I have been dating this man for over 5 months now. He is unlike anyone that I have ever dated before. So good to me and so nice to me. As of recently he told me that he loved me and I do feel the same way. A few days after he told me that I noticed that i had been feeling really distant lately and have contemplated ending things with him. The one downside to that is that we have become best friends. I go to him for everything like advice but I don't rely on him for everything. Today I told him that I needed a few days to think about things. My plan for those days were to see if I missed him. I'm hoping to realize during these days that I dont want to be without him. any other tips or advice on what I can do to work on us together! anything could help!
Iama Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Tell him exactly this. That you are losing attraction for him... You want to be with him, but your heart is contemplating. Tell him he needs to treat you less nicely and be less needy in order for you to feel more attracted 1
Imajerk17 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I'm confused. If everything is so great why do you want to end things?
NJtoDC Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 (edited) Hi so I have been dating this man for over 5 months now. He is unlike anyone that I have ever dated before. So good to me and so nice to me. As of recently he told me that he loved me and I do feel the same way. A few days after he told me that I noticed that i had been feeling really distant lately and have contemplated ending things with him. The one downside to that is that we have become best friends. I go to him for everything like advice but I don't rely on him for everything. Today I told him that I needed a few days to think about things. My plan for those days were to see if I missed him. I'm hoping to realize during these days that I dont want to be without him. any other tips or advice on what I can do to work on us together! anything could help! Wow. Do you make decisions based on a whim? The man you are crazy about declares his love, and you begin to flip-flop? Did something happen that you are not telling us, or did his (mutual) expression of love somehow turn you off? Can you articulate a good reason to step back? I just don't get it. How is his becoming your BFF a bad thing? My advice. Do some deep reflection. Do not let your proverbial heart (which are fickle) direct your choices. Guide your heart with reason. Love, at least long lasting love, is not about the feelings of the moment (that change for all kinds of reasons) but a choice to commit to another for the long haul. Let reason, not emotion dictate your direction. Best of luck to you. Edited July 8, 2013 by NJtoDC
shexy Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 You have a great boyfriend that tells you he loves you, and you're considering breaking up with him? Yeah, and this is why so many guys think girls only like to play games and prefer men that treat them like crap. BAER
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