smudge21 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Long time since I've posted on here but I was around for a fair while back in 2011. Got some great advice and also offered some. Thought I'd just pop in to share what I consider to be the final chapter in my story to those that remember it. A quick summary is like most stories on here: met girl, fell in love, it wasn't mutual, took a long time for me to heal, and I made all the same mistakes we all do, hoping for a second chance... but you can never make someone love you and you should never project your emotions on to them (that is, just because you feel and care so much, doesn't mean they do). Once you're dumped, you're dumped. So anyway, that was back in early 2011. Now 2.5 years on, I met her one last time for a mutual friends thing. She still look great, but something was very different. Couldn't put my finger on it, but I didn't feel anything. Basically those rose tinted love specs had seriously fallen off and now I just saw a stranger. Wasn't compelled to make any effort. As the night went on (without going into details, people were there for me) it was clear that she didn't like not being the centre of attention, or that this guy who in the past would've walked over hot coals for her, was now treating her like a distant work colleague. So she starts trying to embarrass me by bringing up private things from the past... 2.5 years in the past. It didn't work and only led to her and her man friend (who shared a remarkable similarity to Shrek) sitting on their own and eventually leaving. With no one caring too much. So what's the point in all this, well to me it's not so much closure as I feel I had that a long time ago, but more a pleasant reminder of how lucky I am that things didn't work out between us. I feel like it was a gift to see this sad desperate for attention nasty little girl for what she truly is. As I said before, those rose tinted love specs really do blind us to the truth so often, but once they're off, only then do you see the truth - just a shame it takes so long to remove them. Anyway, that's it. Thanks for all the wonderful advice I received - some of which I tried to follow. To finish, as cliche as it sounds, time really does heal all wounds, so to those still suffering, chin up and fight through it. It does get better.
Talulah Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I noticed that about my ex as well. Whenever I would ignore him, he would try to get my attention. It's like playing games with children. Do they ever grow up?
Recommended Posts