AppleFudge Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 (edited) Hey, I'm AppleFudge, and I have been posting a ridiculous amount of threads here over the course of 3 days. I was hopeless, and I needed guidance. A lot of people told me to give up, I didn't even bother reading why, because I know why I should give up, and I more importantly, know why I shouldn't. I started reading "The Secret" and it gave me a lot of hope. I done some of the processes, and as it got to 6 days of NC with the guy of my dreams... I suddenly seen a lot of signs making me think of him, and so I had this feeling inside me that it was just time to contact him. I did, and it went great. He told me he had missed me and that he wants to see me again. I for some reason didn't think contacting them and breaking NC would ever result in them admitting they missed you (otherwise they would have came back), but it did, and a part of me just knew it would have to be me who made the first move again, as he is somewhat shy. So anyway, things are working out, I'm going to have to be extra cautious when I see him. I'm no longer sad anymore, I haven't been for the past week, just confident and I've been going out with others and building my confidence up. So when I see him, I should be radiating happiness and positively! Not going to rush into anything but basically I just wanted to tell everyone that I'm getting my second chance. I had begged, pleaded, I sent him a countless amount of texts every day for a month after our break up, I tried to make him see reason, I drunk dialed, I committed text terrorism. I lowered my value and made myself worthless to him. Yet after only 6 days of NC, and a little work on myself, he missed me a lot and didn't even want to leave his house or see anyone. So the tables REALLY turned, because in that time, I was out with my friends having cocktails every night. I thought there was no hope as I done everything that all the gurus tell you not to do. Yes it pushed him away, but it was undone in a matter of days! He's asked me if I'm okay, because I acted out so much, and I assured him that's all in the past. We're so happy to be talking again and excited to see each other. :love: Edited July 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Simon Phoenix Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 (edited) I hate to be a Downer, but him missing you does not mean that he's ready to get back with you or is anywhere close to that stage. Most dumpers do miss the people they dumped because they formed a bond with them. That doesn't mean they want to get back with them. You are being way presumptuous right now -- I would pump the brakes in a severe way. You need to relax or you are setting yourself up for disaster. Six days of no contact is way, way too short. Unfortunately, I see a messy train wreck coming. I hope I'm wrong, but this is about as much of an overreaction to a breadcrumb as I've seen on this site. If this doesn't go the way you want it to, I feel like you might revert to the clingyness and text terrorism again because you haven't taken any time (six days isn't remotely close to being enough) to really process your behavior and move forward from it. Anyway, it's way too early to be declaring victory. Edited July 7, 2013 by Simon Phoenix
BC1980 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Notice how you didn't wait for him to contact you first. Mistake number one right there. It's only been 6 days NC. This is not good.
Author AppleFudge Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 Yea, I suppose it is early to say so:-) We went out and it was really nice, and he came back to mine and we talked about all of the problems we had when we were together but lightly, I already knew all of them and so did he so there was nothing we didn't agree on. And then when he was leaving he asked me if I'll be his girlfriend again, and I said yes:-) Still taking things slow, but I'm at least allowing myself a half victory for now, thank you very much.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Yea, I suppose it is early to say so:-) We went out and it was really nice, and he came back to mine and we talked about all of the problems we had when we were together but lightly, I already knew all of them and so did he so there was nothing we didn't agree on. And then when he was leaving he asked me if I'll be his girlfriend again, and I said yes:-) Still taking things slow, but I'm at least allowing myself a half victory for now, thank you very much. Be careful. That's all we are saying. Take it very very slow. If you jump back in too fast, the problems of before are going to resurface. 1
Tenderheartbear Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Thank you for giving me, and I'm sure a lot of others, some hope. I sincerely wish nothing but the best for you guys!
Author AppleFudge Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 Thank you for giving me, and I'm sure a lot of others, some hope. I sincerely wish nothing but the best for you guys! You're welcome :> But it took me over a month to realize that it's not going to work until you realize you can be happy without them, and then if they really did love you, almost anything should be fixable aye :> Good luck
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