Why does calling someone out on their lying, cheating, betrayal make you the psycho?

[Sugarkane]

When it's the truth? I don't get it. I still think if I had of said something, then I wouldn't have been friendless while everyone took my Ahole, cheating exes side.

[Woggle]

Because cheaters are experts at blame shifting and playing the victim.

[Xiphias92]

^What Woggle said.

 

It's like a rationalization - your ex passed the blame onto you so he can feel better about himself on the things he did wrong to you.

 

I see it as a low, cheap shot of immaturity. But no matter what your ex says about you, it actually says a lot more about your ex. Cause even then your friends would be left wondering why are they only hearing just one side. Just let him hang himself with his tall tales of the relationship.

 

Don't confront your ex or friends who your ex has spoken to about the relationship. You have been the better person and still will be by not saying anything.

[Sugarkane]

I still have what Ifs about it. I'm sick to death with being the only one to take the high road and do everything right, despite being the dumpee.

[robaday]

Theres nothing wrong with it. But it can come out at a later time, for now hold your peace. Did it to mine but waited (this is a little evil) until she was trying to see me again (took her 8 months) and told her what i really thought of her, at this point I had no love left for her and wasnt in a place to be hurt by the consequences (i.e. her never contacting me again)

 

You have to reach that place too, you have to go through all the pain, anger and grief, and when he knocks, knock him down

[Woggle]

I still have what Ifs about it. I'm sick to death with being the only one to take the high road and do everything right, despite being the dumpee.

 

Boy do I know that feeling. Just don't let anybody give you any crap and hopefully you can find like minded people in your life.

[mano]

that is what mean people do, blame shifting and then playing the victim, happened with me just today . its an awful lot of crap to deal with, n hell yeah , i was labelled as a psycho by my bf ! hmph

[Tenderheartbear]

I've gotten this a couple of times from my ex...always something like "...why you actin' CRAZY?!" when I would ask a simple question or if I called him out on something he did that he knew was wrong but didn't want to admit. It was MY fault when really he was just immature and an idiot. I feel sorry for the next girl that has to deal with his blatant avoidance and blame shifting. No one should put up with that mess.

[tbf]

Why does calling someone out on their lying, cheating, betrayal make you the psycho?

 

It doesn't. What does is why and how you're doing it.

[Sugarkane]

Why does calling someone out on their lying, cheating, betrayal make you the psycho?

 

It doesn't. What does is why and how you're doing it.

 

What do you mean? Even saying it ideally calm and coldly, people on here still say it makes you a psycho.