SugarBerry Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I was wondering what people think: I have met a guy who I am head over heels in love with but there is a catch. He is 10 years older, divorced and has 4 children. It doesn't bother me in the slightest, age is just a number - we have an incredible amount of things in common. All 4 of his children are to a woman he was married to and she was his high school sweetheart, they have been divorced for over 2 years and he sees his children every other weekend and pays child support. He is a good dad. My parents are incredibly pissed at me about the relationship saying I shouldn't be with someone who has been married and has kids... it doesn't bother me at all, I love children and I also want a big family and would accept his children in my life. I haven't met them yet but I have seen pictures - I can't wait to meet them. I just feel really annoyed my family won't support my relationship all because he has children. Do I have to forget him and forget a chance of anything happening between us because my family say I should? or should I listen to my heart? I am 19 and he is 29. Thanks
shexy Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I really don't mean to sound like an *********, but of course you love kids, you ARE a kid. Why would you want to take on so much responsibility when you're still a teenager? I don't get hung up on age differences at all, unless one of the people involved is still a teenager. You haven't even met his kids yet - how do you know they're going to even like you and accept you? Just because you say you'll love them and accept them is pretty dilusional - you haven't even met them yet. And if your guy is SMART, he'll wait until he's REALLY serious about someone before introducing his kids to that person. IF he's smart, he won't introduce his kids to anyone he's just casually dating or hooking up with. I'm sure you won't listen to my advice, because I'm probably the same age as your parents, and I don't think it's horrible and shocking what you're doing, but I think you're trying to get yourself into something you're not mature enough to take on yet.
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