paigej91 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 What has been YOUR personal experience? Has it been around a certain age? Once you see everyone around you pairing off? Just your closest friends after you've been in many weddings? I am curious because the pressure is definitely greater for women, but I can't imagine men are immune to it. This "pressure" is surely different in strength for individuals, but men and women alike would be lying if they said there's absolutely no pressure to get married. (Of course, acting on this pressure is a whole different thing).
Mrlonelyone Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I did not start feeling pressure to marry until a couple years ago. As I am BI and accepted by the people around me (because I remove anyone who dosen't accept it from my life) they don't care who it is to. The biggest source of pressure has been that my friends have all been or are married, having children and they only want to spend time with their families, wives, husbands, fiancee's etc. The second biggest source has been that many of the people who show interest in me, are married. Married women will flirt with a man quite a bit. It's getting to a point that it seems everyone in my age group is married, or in a relationship so serious it might as well be married.
HokeyReligions Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Hubby said he never felt pressured because he never thought he would get married. I took him completely by surprise! He was 34 when we got hitched.
shexy Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 What about what age they try finding an unsuitable wife?
Author paigej91 Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 What about what age they try finding an unsuitable wife? Haha, are you saying that sometimes people just get married for the sake of it because of pressure? That is probably a legitimate thing too: "settling" out of fear of not being able to find better.
Woggle Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I never felt any pressure. I met somebody I wanted to share my life with so why not get married? I didn't get married for the sake of being married.
grkBoy Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 What has been YOUR personal experience? Has it been around a certain age? Once you see everyone around you pairing off? Just your closest friends after you've been in many weddings? I am curious because the pressure is definitely greater for women, but I can't imagine men are immune to it. This "pressure" is surely different in strength for individuals, but men and women alike would be lying if they said there's absolutely no pressure to get married. (Of course, acting on this pressure is a whole different thing). It depends on the guy. While women in some social arenas get the "loser" stigma for not finding a husband, men increasingly are given a pass on it all. Even in some areas men are praised for not settling down, as these social circles believe marriage and children to be a trap over a blessing. As you get older, the trick is to learn to spot the "I'll never marry" guys over the ones who want to settle down, and have the strength to dump guys you see will never marry. AT THE SAME TIME, don't become one of those women who want an engagement ring or full marriage in less than a year. You'll just scare guys off.
NYC-BigKat Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 What has been YOUR personal experience? Has it been around a certain age? Once you see everyone around you pairing off? Just your closest friends after you've been in many weddings? I am curious because the pressure is definitely greater for women, but I can't imagine men are immune to it. This "pressure" is surely different in strength for individuals, but men and women alike would be lying if they said there's absolutely no pressure to get married. (Of course, acting on this pressure is a whole different thing). I feel pressure now to find something . The weather is so so hot & I want a girlfriend for sure. I was at the green acres mall yesterday with my friend & wanted to cool off for a while & so many really really hot girls but they acted like they didn't see us . Its so so hard to see hot girls that I want to make my wife & cant get a hold of them u know.
hppr Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 My parents have been pressuring my brother and I since we were 18-22 to 'grab a girl and get married'. 10 years later they are still bugging us; whenever I go on Failbook my mother will have sent me an email with pics of some friend's grandkids, or how one of my idiot hillbilly cousins is getting married for the umpteenth time etc. ****Most guys don't get this though but there is a lot of pressure around age 23-25 to get married or 'stay single forever' sort of thing. Really it's like KungFooJoe said in another thread, the longer you wait, the less options you got...
hppr Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I feel pressure now to find something . The weather is so so hot & I want a girlfriend for sure. I was at the green acres mall yesterday with my friend & wanted to cool off for a while & so many really really hot girls but they acted like they didn't see us . Its so so hard to see hot girls that I want to make my wife & cant get a hold of them u know. I know exactly what you mean bro that used to be me a 3-4 years' ago. It's like everybody is having fun in the club while you're locked outside staring through a window lol.
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