overseas2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Was it a date or not? I still dont know? And why do things have to be so confusing... Ok here we go. Guy I have had my eye on for about two months now. He flirts with me and I flirt with him. Nothing happens. We go out for coffee one day, we flirt but its all kind not so open. He asks me about my age and asks me if he is too old... posted about this earlier Ok well this week I get all dressed up and spend the better part of work meeting staring at him. He writes me an SMS... are you finshed working"? I write back "yes". He writes "I am still working". Then he calls and asks "do you guys want to go out for a drink (since he knows my collegue is with me). I go by myself. We spend two and half hours together in bar. Lots of laughs, eye contact, etc... Its been two days, we have talked twice. He is still personal and friendly but he hasn't asked me out again? So was it a date or not? Is he interested or not? he is driving me crazy. I tried to ask him out myself today but I got so scared. Suggestions please.
EC Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Do you like this guy? Do you want to go out with this guy? If you want a date with him then ask him out...why not..he's an older guy hes probably used to str8 up women..... Hes probably confused about what your thinking as well..He stepped up and asked you out and you guys went out and he's probably wondering what you are thinking about him now..and hes probably a little scared as well.. I say ask him whats the worst that could happen..he says no? If he does you move on no biggie.
Author overseas2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 I like him alot. :I am totally crazy about him. But I tried today to ask him out. I even started the first words. I said something like "I would really like it if and then I just stopped because my heart jumped into my throat and I was paralyzed. Like I said "I am not even sure if we went on a date the other night....
EC Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 I love that feeling lol ...makes you feel so alive at that very moment right..ahh.. anyways..lol...then just "casually" bring up going out for drinks again? Was it only the two of you that went out that other time for drinks?
Author overseas2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 He called and asked me "do you guys want to go out for drinks". he meant me and my collegue. But I thought at that moment that he was really afraid to ask me out and that he asked about the collegue as well to soften it up and make it easier for him. I told him "I would love to". I made no mention of my collegue. And I showed up by myself. I told him my collegue couldnt come to kind of cover myself too. We spent two hours together drinking wine and beer. I even touched his arm once and I flirted with him. At one point he asked me if "I was in a hurry to go home". I said "no and I asked him if he was in a hurry and he said "no". But he didn't order anymore. Neither did I. So naturally after another half an hour talking he said that he had to get up early in the morning. I would love to ask him out but I dont know how to grow the balls. I have tried. Do you have any way that I could calm my fears... Any suggestions....
EC Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 I mean nothing I can say can calm your nerves..u know u like this guy so your going to get that feeling in your stomache regardless lol But did he give you like any hint of doing it again while talking that night? Anything? How was his reaction when you touched his arm? I personally would just talk to him head on..he is older so I don't think he has time to waste sitting around playing the yes no maybe game..Besides you get so scared and then you talk to him and you find out for sure whats going on...youll feel so much better and then you'll say wow that wasn't that hard..
Author overseas2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 WE only went out once before but that was a work trip it was not a date. At that time he mentioned going to a park together that is closeby to the city we live in. He also mentioned that maybe one day I would see his beach house. That was over a coffee after work but it was not a date. And I made it clear that I would like that very much. After almost a week after that first coffee he asked me out on the night before last and you know the details. This time, he did not mention any additional dates. He was very nice during the whole time we were together. A pleasure to talk to at every moment. He did not do anything when I touched his arm. As I said at one point he asked me if I was in a hurry to go home. I laughed... looked him straight in the eye and said "no are you"? And he said no: yet he did not order anything else. So we ended up staying only a half an hour more. It was tense for me when he drove me to my house. I dont know if he was. Maybe.. it seemed kind of akward. Nothing happened. I decided against inviting him in. I am very attractive so I can not imagine that he isnt one bit interested. He is also very attractive. I know he is not married but I dont know anything about the girlfriend situation, and I am afraid kind of that he may have one. Not that he gave me any indications, he never mentioned anyone. But I feel that this may be the only logical explanation that he is not full on with me. Ok so I have to grow the balls?
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