ginastar Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Did you know you were rebounding right away going into the relationship or did you really think you liked the person and later realized it was just a rebound?
theonlyjuan Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I think mine was a possibility. Don't get me wrong, I did like her. No way was it as perfect and amazing as I made out in my mind. When we broke up, I could only remember all the good things. Now I'm remembering all the times she came over in a mood, the odd boring nights in. I've always said...When it was good it was great. Most other days it was nothing special, we never had that spark. We never shared a passion or anything we could both share. We liked different things, but we got on really well. Maybe she was more of a good friend that I was attracted to. The mind plays tricks and you doubt yourself. I still don't know for sure.
aloneinaz Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I'm not sure anyone goes into a committed relationship thinking it's only going to be a rebound. YES, people do start to date others when they are absolutely not over their previous ex. I bet a lot of relationships may have felt that way at the beginning only for them to turn very serious and the ex's where all forgotten about. I think you have to date with an open mind for any situation. I'm honest with those I've been dating the past two weeks. Most know I'm only a month plus out of my previous relationship and they know and accept the risk of getting involved with me. Ironically, I talked to this really attractive woman today who also said she's just out of a relationship of the same length. I asked her when it ended and she was embarrassed to tell me a week ago. LOL.. She quickly added that the relationship wasn't that great and had been fading for the past couple of months.
hotpotato Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Former rebounder here... After my previous relationship ended, I was on the prowl. I tried very hard to convince myself that I liked several men. It took a couple years, but I can see that I wasn't really compatible with any of them. I tried to pretend for a very long time, but the spark isn't there, and honestly, I dont think there was ever much of a spark. These guys weren't even my type. This time I dont plan to date for a good while. 1
Babolat Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I knew about a month into my first relationship post separation from my now ex wife.
flitzanu Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Did you know you were rebounding right away going into the relationship or did you really think you liked the person and later realized it was just a rebound? what's the real question? you presume your ex is merely "rebounding" and making a mistake, or are you concerned that YOU are "rebounding" and making a mistake?
Author ginastar Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 what's the real question? you presume your ex is merely "rebounding" and making a mistake, or are you concerned that YOU are "rebounding" and making a mistake? does this information really matter?
flitzanu Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 does this information really matter? yes, it's relevant to you getting a proper answer for your question. but, here's both instead: 1. if you think your ex is "rebounding", calling it a rebound doesn't change the fact that they are dating and banging someone else, regardless of how quickly they started dating this new person after leaving a relationship. naming it "a rebound" doesn't make it any less significant to the ex that is involved with the new person. 2. if you yourself are fearful that you are "rebounding" then it would seem that you're not completely over your ex, and that part of your brain is telling you that trying to date someone new right now is not the best idea because you're not ready to move on and you won't be treating them fairly by having deep emotions for your ex. 2
Recommended Posts