Newbie37 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 OK so me & my ex split in March decided to remain friends, he dumped me and kept it from me he had moved on, he know knows I have a date tomorrow night and has been asking questions, who is he, how ol, where are we going and have I booked a hotel??!?!? Now I have asked him NOTHING about his new partner so why is he so interested?!?!?! Thoughts please??
Nicoleiia Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Its all well and fine when you dump someone and move on, but when the DUMPEE moves on, its a problem. He's either jealous cuz he has feelings for you still or he's just being nosy. Either way, don't tell him anything. Its none of his business. 4
Sneaky Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I agree, it's none of his business and that last question is really rude as well. 2
Author Newbie37 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Thanks for the reply I have not told him anything - his reply was im so secretive, this coming from a guy who I asked outright if he had a new women to which he told me over and over he had not only for me to find out via pics on social site if them together that they were a couple!!! I just cant work out why he is so bothered when he had moved on!!!!
Author Newbie37 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Thanks Sneaky - I thought so too, I did reply y wud I need a hotel to which he replied y do you think!?!?!?
flitzanu Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 you should tell your ex that you're going to have filthy hot sex with this new guy. that's what "friends" talk about, since you two are friends, it should be ok to talk about that kind of stuff. 3
Author Newbie37 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Haha I wish I could say something like that back, however tbh I find it REALLY awkward talking to him about stuff like that so cant understand why he is asking me all the questions!!! He is the one bringing it up all the time!!
flitzanu Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 well, he dumped you so he could bang other girls, but obviously he wants to keep you hanging around in case it doesn't work. if you start moving on...then he won't have you sitting around wondering if he might come back. doesn't sound like your "friendship" works very well, at least for you.
Author Newbie37 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Well I do have an idea that he has been seeing he new partner for between 4-6 weeks as that's when the contact between us seem to drop, im not under any illusion I do think he has kept me hanging on for his own needs which is why I am now moving on, im just confused as to why he would react the way he has, I only mentioned in passing I had a date and then I feel like a contestant on a quiz show!!!
LostGirl11 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Because he's curious. Don't read too much into it, if he wanted you he wouldn't be dating someone else. 2
theonlyjuan Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 That weird mentality that takes a while to lose. What was once yours is hard to let go of. You dont want anyone else to have them, even if you broke up with them. I think he's got a bit of that
Scale Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 so i had a similar thing with my ex of being friends and when someone is curious and inquisitive is because he still has strong feelings for you and wants to get back with you. While in the relationship he had faith in you and did not ask many questions but now he's afraid to loose you as a friend as well. But if you say he dumped you, then he probably has just realized your importance and is too egoistic to get hurt or ask you to get back.
Author Newbie37 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Thanks for the reply's guys, I must admit it has got to me a bit tbh as he seemed fined up until this, as I say I have not asked any questions of his relationship and he has not offered even going to great lengths to keep it from me which is why I feel that he was keeping me hanging on, I dont think he wants to get back as wen I asked why he had lied about his relationship he said he did not want to hurt me. Maybe he is just curious or wondering if they compare to him!!!
Nicoleiia Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 My ex did the same thing. Dumped me, and before I started NC, asked me a bunch of questions regarding who I was seeing or planning to date. I feel like most dumpers are just sheisty people who don't care about anyones feelings but their own!
aloneinaz Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I don't understand why you're talking an ex who dumped you? He friendzoned you allowed that. That's why MOST people stop talking to the ex's after the relationship ends. You don't need to know what's going on in each others lives. 2
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