Steelergirl Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 My story is not a new one I'm sure, with a few variations. I discovered on Facebook that he was seeing someone half my age (he never was very smart as to how FB works), I confronted him, he got vicious and hit below the belt and that was that. I deleted my FB page, cut off all contact and now I'm faced with the aftermath. The pain is unbearable and what I really want is to hear from the veterans around here who have gone through a heart-wrenching break up, survived, and hopefully even thrived. I could really use some positivity right now because I can barely even get out of bed the pain is so overwhelming. I did so much for that man and this was how he repaid me, it really sucks. I'm also consumed with so much anger with what he did, and I know that is not healthy but I cannot help it. Thanks to everyone who takes the time to respond 1
groupergirl Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I am sorry for your loss. Well, one day at a time and keep busy. I so understand how you feel. I did everything for my ex. BU 1 month ago and I have moved out 2 weeks ago. New girlfriend within 3 days. So yes it is very painful. Have you searched your soul? I did see red flags, I did see things like him hating the mother of his child. I saw so many signs, I just thought I was the one. Yes I was one of two. Sad thing is he wanted to end it and did. Believe me it is painful but believe in yourself. Believe that you deserve to be happy. Believe that you are a good person. No matter what you do - do not contact - Seriously No Contact. The No Contact is for you. It is for your self esteem and you to grow. It will be a cold day in hell before I would ever contact this man. I have known him for well over 20 years and I kid you not the No Contact will help and for every day and every week it gets a tiny bit better but you have to want to heal. You will be ok. It gets better with each and every day.
Author Steelergirl Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 Thank you groupergirl. Yes, there were many red flags and I stayed far too long. I've read some of your other posts and we seem to share some similarities. My ex hated his daughter's mother too, and just about all his ex's were crazy bit*hs. As I am now being labeled to his new gf (victim, haha) I'm sure. I will not contact him, it ended so badly and things were said that could not be forgiven so there is no point. He's moved on and I have to piece myself back together somehow. Day by day I guess. 1
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