imconfused101 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I have been doing well, in the passed few months until this weekend I'm dropped again. short story: I had a nasty broke up with my ex last year at the end of March.he didn't talk to me for few months then he contacted me for help as he graduated from grad school and looking for job. I helped him, he found a job. then we have been talking and go out once a while since then. then I have been trying to do NC and I always ended up breaking it whenever he starts contacting me. few months before the end of 2012 he only responded to me coldly whenever i contacted him. Sometimes he even ignored my phone and text (especially when he's out with friends or on a date, I know he has been very actively on dating website and some information from friends but I heard he doesnt have much luck) at the same he still wants to go out with me sometimes (I'M CONFUSED) Until in march, the night before I left for my business trip, we had dinner. I asked him if he wanted to give a 2nd chance to start fresh dating again and he rejected me.Then, i went on my business trip to Asia for a month he tried to contact me once but i ignored it (i found out he had a problem that day, is he using me?) . My trip actually helped me a lot to recover as I cant wait for next one in a few weeks to Latin America countries. Since I came back, he started trying to be more honest (although still kinda shady sometimes especially when he tried to lie) and tried to contact me and always return my text or phone call (although, with a big gap sometimes). he only contacts me when I am on NC, ignoring his calls but then I felt bad I responded to him. But then he wont initiate to contact me again but still response to my text and return my call whenever i reached him out. this happens like circle... WHAT DOES he has in mind? we are hanging out in the same group and I don't want to leave the group just because of him as I have so many good friends there. Every time he sees me at group meeting or bars, He always approaches or at least tries to say "hi", or waving like crazy to make sure i see it. (I always response coolly or pretend I didn't see it) Also, he always find a chance to get more information about anything new with me. he kinda knew, i have a lot of new stuff going on and I'm proud of them. not to show off. i'm only 27 just recently promoted and started my dream job as senior manager in very well-known consulting firm, I got my new apartment in Manhattan. he offered me a ride if i needed go to IKEA but I rejected. few days ago, we went on quick dinner after work. during dinner, he told me that the hostess was cute, and other cute people that he met. I responded it cool...i just said " great, you should go after them, i dont care" though it's hurts badly inside but passed quickly...but I guess i'm immune with it. DID HE try to make me jealous? or He thinks that Im cool with that? How can I make him stop acting sweet to me in front of other people. I dont want to be nasty because it's gonna put me as the bad guy in front of other people especially after I was the nasty one on the break up. I don't want him approaches me, saying fake hi...HOW? I appreciate your thoughts and suggestions, please help, I cant deal anymore. I'm thinking to move to another city, I have expat opportunity in London. but I am gonna have so much to lose.
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