Mixed Messages

[Gabbi28]

I would really appreciate some help with a dilemma, I was seeing a guy for a few months, we've known each other for 30 years, family friend growing up, we got together romantically last year. He seemed at first very into me then things just changed and I don't know why, all seemed to be great. We'd kept in touch and we tried again a few months later but he just turned away again.

He made contact 5 months later and we had some banter back and forth then we met for lunch. He seemed happy & keen to see me, he was looking out for my arrival and was then very attentive, wanting to know all about what I've been up to and then started asking about my love life.. ugh!

When it was time to leave, I just walked to my car saying bye when he came up behind me and asked for a kiss goodbye. I kissed his cheek and gave him a little friendly hug, his hands lingered on my waist.

I then didn't hear any more from him.

I sent him a message three weeks later on his birthday to wish him well. He came back all happy to hear from me. We arranged to meet for lunch again asking me if I was free the following week. I gave him two dates over two weeks that i had available. Then nothing for 4 days. When he responded he apologised and told me his computer was being repaired and proceeded with the date that suited him too.

I'm curious as to why he didn't text me to let me know, is he not telling the truth? Feel like I'm getting mixed signals here, I need another's perspective, should I just not reply any longer or am I just acting like a female, looking too much into everything... should I give him the benefit of the doubt & reply & meet him or just not respond? I'd hate to lose him as a friend, but getting tired of wondering what's going on with him.

I look forward to hearing what you advise. many thanks

[OwlSoul]

Oh ma'am. Don't waste your time on this gent. Men aren't suppose to send mixed signals. They like you a bit more than other women? They'll try to spend some time around you and etc.

 

If they do send mixed signals it means they're fishing for something easy. When they understand they aren't getting what they want from you easily they fly away like kingfishers to find another one easy to catch.