Inviv_girl Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 (edited) I did not think of my ex- that much anymore, I did not cry as much as I was anymore, I'm happy moving on and look forward what is ahead of me. I found myself a new friends in a new living environment.. away from my ex- and our mutual friends. I blocked him from every social media and that kind so there is no way he can contact me. I kissed a cute guy at the party. I'm not ready to date yet so I let myself enjoy being alone and happy. I think I'm doing pretty good now. And then... I dreamt about him, about us.. we lived together, we married aww.. we were so happy. The house painted in white, just what I like, everything was bright. We kissed, we were "about" to make love . And holy moly I woke up! And feel extremely like crap!! I tried to get back to sleep and forgot that dream but I can't! ended up waking up for the rest of the night and still I cant erase that dream through the day!!!! Now I feel weak, on the bus to work I cry out of no where, remember how he hurt me so bad etc..etc... I don't want to feel like this anymore, I ring my friends to hang out tonight and they are busy, parents visit them whole weekend.. ah!!! what do I do?!? Edited July 6, 2013 by Inviv_girl
Toddbt12y1 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Live through it. No lie. No joke. These types of vivid dreams are a pain...I know. Best thing to do...is realize it's all fantasy and jumble your mind is trying to sort out...sort him out. That this is progress to a better future. You just have to roll with it...it'll pass...or not bother you as much(anymore). 1
Author Inviv_girl Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Yea... I'm thinking this too shall past. My mind stuck thinking about him again after the dream. How I wish it was reality when we're happy, married but it was just a dream
Toddbt12y1 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Yea... I'm thinking this too shall past. My mind stuck thinking about him again after the dream. How I wish it was reality when we're happy, married but it was just a dream If it's any consolidation....I too have had these same problems after vivid dreams. I know where you are coming from. It sucks. Your mind is sorting through what you most think about...or worry about. Him(you miss him). The brain uses dreams to tell us things that might be what we need to hear...see....feel. Maybe that was it? That it was not meant to be...a dream of a fantasy sadly long gone. Your mind might be showing you this. Eitherway. I know....hm. hug* you'll be stronger than this pain someday.
SimonSerenade Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Aw it sucks when that happens, I'm there myself, had a wonderful dream she was leaning into my arms and kissed me on the cheek, woke up feeling devestated, nothing felt more right than just standing infront of her and holding her tight, i really did love her, knowing she's probably with someone else doing all that now is hard to accept after dreams like that, dreams like that take there toll on you for a few days then it's back to moving on again, battle through and stay strong. 1
theonlyjuan Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Had the same thing too. It ruined my day! When I dream now, we are broke up. I think my mind has stopped playing tricks on me. There's a good chance he has had dreams about you too. You just have to accept it for what it is and get on with your day. You'll soon be dreaming of someone else 1
Author Inviv_girl Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Have to admit that dream had set me back. I'm deeply thinking of him after even though I try to switch my mind into something else. I know it is hard to accept that he probably doing all what we did with someone new now, and I will feel devastated indeed if I know that, so best I hear nothing about him! I just added the guy I kissed last week now, the thing I didn't wanna do last week when he added me cuz I dont want any connection whatsoever but I have to do it now to distract my mind from that dream
Sneaky Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I had one too last night! For some reason it did not bother me as much as it used to when I had them, so I guess it gets better over time. I also don't have them as frequently anymore so that's good. Just hang in there.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I dream if him every night since 1 month ago. Some dreams leave me feeling very weak as he kisses me and hugs me. So hard to forget that sensations... Why is our brain messing with us? We are doing such a hard work, and then one dream and we have a setback ugh
Toddbt12y1 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I dream if him every night since 1 month ago. Some dreams leave me feeling very weak as he kisses me and hugs me. So hard to forget that sensations... Why is our brain messing with us? We are doing such a hard work, and then one dream and we have a setback ugh Think of it more as your brain(mind) is trying to sort this out...at a deeper level than we consciously can. By doing this...it is slowly adapting, and killing the emotions that hurt you.
Author Inviv_girl Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 In my early break up I didn't dream of him at all when I cry everyday over him and thinking how bad he hurt me. Hell its been 10 months now, when I cry less.. still think of him but not as heavy and hurt as before when I feel like my chest pressed by tons of heavy metal Yeah right, we are working so hard to get over that person and then a dream suddenly popped out and set us back. Damn..
Talulah Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I think that we try to supress out thoughts so much during the day, that those needs and feelings come out in our subconscience at night.
Author Inviv_girl Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 I think that we try to supress out thoughts so much during the day, that those needs and feelings come out in our subconscience at night. Not really... I didn't think of him at all, I'm moving on and all of sudden I have that dream and yes it kinda sets me back
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