Chris715 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 (edited) My story's pretty long for anyone who hasn't seen me before on here but basically, have had a long, hard time getting over a bad breakup with my ex late last year. Went NC in May through most of June, started feeling a bit better, learned my ex was going to be working with me for the remainder of the summer, broke NC because I honestly felt I had no other choice, asking her to confirm she was indeed going to be working with me for the summer and when she said yes, saying I'd be happy to work with her and hoped we could be on talking terms at least for work. First day was awkward as hell, we didn't talk or anything, I was incredibly stressed, depressed and even feeling suicidal at the time and that was pretty much my last post on here... So that's a really quick background. Since then things have gotten better... I think. Still in a pretty weird spot with all of this though. Second day on the job I basically forced myself to go up and talk to her, just say hi, give her a smile, tell her welcome back. Since then we've talked at work when we've gotten the chance, I've texted her sparingly about a few work related things, which she's replied to. She came over to me and sat down when we were both on break one day and had a nice chat for like 20 minutes. At this point I'm hopeful we can be friends again. I still care about her and decided it's too painful to not have her in my life at all. She unblocked me from Facebook (blocked me when things got really nasty between us in May) and I'm thinking of sending her a friend request this week. Honestly I don't want to pressure her with anything and I want to give her space, which is what I failed at doing initially. Should I pursue friendship with her at this point? I'd be lying if I said I still didn't have some feelings for her, but going back to NC after all of this is too hard for me, really not an option at this point. I feel like I'm stuck in a limbo right now where we're talking and genuinely have good feelings towards each other (I know I do towards her, and from what I can tell she does too) but we're not really friends or anything. I could use some outsider perspective on this. What do you guys think? Edited July 6, 2013 by Chris715
Sneaky Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I might not be the best person to advice you but here goes. As long as you have any lingering romantic feelings you should not be friends and here's why; imagine if she got together with someone else while you are stuck at the sidelines. 1
Author Chris715 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 I might not be the best person to advice you but here goes. As long as you have any lingering romantic feelings you should not be friends and here's why; imagine if she got together with someone else while you are stuck at the sidelines. I've thought about that and yep, it would probably hurt a lot. But so does the thought of losing her and having her completely out of my life. Very confused.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I've thought about that and yep, it would probably hurt a lot. But so does the thought of losing her and having her completely out of my life. Very confused. Well, you've lost her as a partner already. And to be honest, is your interaction with her right now something that is really necessary? It sounds strained at best.
Author Chris715 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Well, you've lost her as a partner already. And to be honest, is your interaction with her right now something that is really necessary? It sounds strained at best. You would think so but honestly when we talked a few days ago it felt completely natural. It felt like how we used to talk when we were friends before we even considered a relationship, maybe that's what's really ignited the spark for me to reach out to her.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 You would think so but honestly when we talked a few days ago it felt completely natural. It felt like how we used to talk when we were friends before we even considered a relationship, maybe that's what's really ignited the spark for me to reach out to her. Meh, unless you are willing to be the platonic friend that's not a good thing.
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