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rocketman122 Established Member

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You can say:

 

"John, how can we get over this jealousy that you have with my past? I want you to read this because I think it will help:

 

Read"

 

for me, nothing would help. it says everything to me when a women does ONS and not in a good way. mistake or not, it would be over. there is nothing to talk about here. I hate women who have ONS. not a girl I want to deal with. and not the way she did it.

 

When I was a wedding photographer you cannot imagine the amount of ONS I could have had. never once did I succumb to the temptation. its wrong.

crude Established Member

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I hate how some guys, apparently nicer and good ones, are told to wait for sex, yet the same girls who make those nice guys wait for sex, will have hot and dirty sex with douchebags pretty much right away.

 

 

Nothing to hate about. If a woman wants to have sex with a guy she finds attractive, that's understandable and her business. Men seem to want women they find attractive for sexual purposes, women can be the same way.

Woggle Established Member

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Take note ladies.

 

If you've ever acted like a ho-bag in the past, you're pretty much a ho-bag for life at the risk of being dumped.

 

 

And yes - this is clearly slut shaming.

 

 

Nothing chaps my ass more than a man thinking he has a say in what I choose to do with my body or that he has certain "rights" because of past choices I made that had nothing to do with him.

 

 

F*ck that.

 

He doesn't have the right to tell you what to do with your own body but he does have the right to move on from a woman he feels is not really that attracted to him.

 

Being the nice reliable guy who a woman has no primal attraction for is pretty much the lowest on the totem pole for a guy and from a man's mind this is exactly where the BF of the OP is. Men try everything they can to avoid that position.

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Imajerk17 Established Member

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No one has a "right" to tell you what to do with your body, but then you don't have a "right" to a serious relationship either. If your past actions embarrass your boyfriend or make him look bad in front of other men, you are likely to get dumped.

 

I know you women get so defensive about this but that won't change reality. If you fall in love with a "conservative" man and he gets the kind of surprise the boyfriend in the OP's story got, he is likely to react just as the guys pointed out. Don't blame us dudes for pointing that out to you.

 

Instead of getting so upset with the guys on here for being honest with you, you'd be better off taking what we said into consideration. If you have a wild past, you might want to:

 

(a) Date only guys who have a wild past themselves (I slept with women on the first and second date myself so I actually understand).

 

(b) Tell a guy with potential fairly early on that you went through a wild phase so you don't blindside him.

 

Just trying to save some grief here.

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rocketman122 Established Member

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No one has a "right" to tell you what to do with your body, but then you don't have a "right" to a serious relationship either. If your past actions embarrass your boyfriend or make him look bad in front of other men, you are likely to get dumped.

 

I know you women get so defensive about this but that won't change reality. If you fall in love with a "conservative" man and he gets the kind of surprise the boyfriend in the OP's story got, he is likely to react just as the guys pointed out. Don't blame us dudes for pointing that out to you.

 

Instead of getting so upset with the guys on here for being honest with you, you'd be better off taking what we said into consideration. If you have a wild past, you might want to:

 

(a) Date only guys who have a wild past themselves (I slept with women on the first and second date myself so I actually understand).

 

(b) Tell a guy with potential fairly early on that you went through a wild phase so you don't blindside him.

 

Just trying to save some grief here.

 

Good stuff. obviously im conservative and date women who are conservative when it comes to dating and relationships. women who had ONS disgust me. its such a turn off.

 

I have all the available PUWSSY I could ever want and I dont ***** around and these whorish women sleep around and cant control their genitals. man that pisses me off.

 

One women I dated told me on the 2nd date she had a few ONS after she got divorced and in fact that day her FWB asked if they want to have some play time together and she told him she has a date with me. when she told me that, I thought she was absolutely garbage low class of a person. I never called after. she texted, cried on the phone but god damn its disgusting and a turn off. control your slit, like I control my cock.

BradJacobs Established Member

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I hate how some guys, apparently nicer and good ones, are told to wait for sex, yet the same girls who make those nice guys wait for sex, will have hot and dirty sex with douchebags pretty much right away.

 

1. You can have hot and dirty sex as a nice guy.

 

2. Just because she slept with him early on doesn't make her a slut or him a douchebag. The same holds true in the sense that just because she's making YOU wait doesn't make you a nice guy or a good guy.

 

Food for thought.

Divasu Established Member

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When I was a wedding photographer you cannot imagine the amount of ONS I could have had. never once did I succumb to the temptation. its wrong.

 

It's wrong, for you... That's your preference, and there's nothing wrong with it.

 

Personally, I have low tolerance for men with retroactive jealousy. An ex had it towards past boyfriends, it was a nightmare living with and really eroded my self esteem over time. Having said that, this is the OP's problem, not hers.

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Drseussgrrl Established Member

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Sometimes I wonder what planet some of you date on.

 

I date a lot and the subject of sexual histories is never on the table or up for discussion. What's the point? Sex happens when it feels right for both of us and I couldn't care less what happened between him and another girl before I came along.

 

 

And my own sex life has never been cause for getting dumped, either.

Divasu Established Member

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Having said that, this is the OP's problem, not hers.

 

I meant his problem, not OP's.

Mrlonelyone Established Member

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Ladies, men want to feel sexy and attractive too. When a BF finds out what the op's did, he does not feel she's really into him.

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Woggle Established Member

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Sometimes I wonder what planet some of you date on.

 

I date a lot and the subject of sexual histories is never on the table or up for discussion. What's the point? Sex happens when it feels right for both of us and I couldn't care less what happened between him and another girl before I came along.

 

 

And my own sex life has never been cause for getting dumped, either.

 

So if you were involved with a guy who want all out with a woman that is sort of trashy and treated her to the finest places and took her on trips but he doesn't seem to want to put in any effort for you you would be okay with that? You would never start to wonder whether or not he is really into you?

Woggle Established Member

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So if a woman has sex on the first date one time she needs to have sex with every guy on the first time or else she's a hypocrite? Maybe if a woman has sex on the first date she then realizes that it was a mistake and she doesn't want to do it again with the next guy.

 

I'm a guy and I think guys with your views are ridicilous. It has nothing to do with punishing you for treating her well and rewarding scumbags. People learn from mistakes.

 

She doesn't have to but do you have a better way for a man to prevent being that reliable and stable guy she doesn't really get wet for?

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Nothing to hate about. If a woman wants to have sex with a guy she finds attractive, that's understandable and her business. Men seem to want women they find attractive for sexual purposes, women can be the same way.

 

No.

 

I do not have any problem with women wanting to have sex with guys they find attractive. Their prerogative, they can have sex with whoever they want or not at all. Nothing wrong with that.

 

But I have a big problem when a woman who has no problem having sex early with guys she finds attractive, yet at the same time can make other guys wait and still has a nerve to spout BS, how supposedly attracted to the waiting guy she is. Sure, and I have a bridge to sell anyone who believes that.

 

I try to eliminate liars like that from my life as soon as I spot them, but I'm still annoyed, how common they seem.

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Drseussgrrl Established Member

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So if you were involved with a guy who want all out with a woman that is sort of trashy and treated her to the finest places and took her on trips but he doesn't seem to want to put in any effort for you you would be okay with that? You would never start to wonder whether or not he is really into you?

 

This is a hypothetical sitch that I've never been faced with. How would I know how he treated an ex? I don't care. What matters is how he's treating ME.

rocketman122 Established Member

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It's wrong, for you... That's your preference, and there's nothing wrong with it.

 

Personally, I have low tolerance for men with retroactive jealousy. An ex had it towards past boyfriends, it was a nightmare living with and really eroded my self esteem over time. Having said that, this is the OP's problem, not hers.

 

 

It simply says to me what a low class person that women is. but I never dated a women (LT) who had ONS.

Woggle Established Member

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This is a hypothetical sitch that I've never been faced with. How would I know how he treated an ex? I don't care. What matters is how he's treating ME.

 

Well if it were to happen how would you feel? Also how he treats an ex indicates how he will treat you. People don't tend to change behavior from person to person.

Drseussgrrl Established Member

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She doesn't have to but do you have a better way for a man to prevent being that reliable and stable guy she doesn't really get wet for?

 

So what you're saying is, it really IS a man's insecurities at play here.

 

 

Jealousy that another dude is more sexually desirable.

 

 

Lame.

Divasu Established Member

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It simply says to me what a low class person that women is. but I never dated a women (LT) who had ONS.

 

Interesting, I think the same of men who have pics of themselves in their underwear posing like Arnold Schwarzenegger on an interpersonal relationship forum. Tit for tat babyeee. :D

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Woggle Established Member

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So what you're saying is, it really IS a man's insecurities at play here.

 

 

Jealousy that another dude is more sexually desirable.

 

 

Lame.

 

It is insecurity for a good reason. No man wants to be in the position of being the nice guy who she doesn't find sexually attractive. It's the lowest position in the relationship totem pole and a man has very good reason not to want to occupy it. Can you blame him?

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Drseussgrrl Established Member

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Well if it were to happen how would you feel? Also how he treats an ex indicates how he will treat you. People don't tend to change behavior from person to person.

 

Don't know. I go based on the here and now. If he's being good to me that's all I care about. *shrug*

Drseussgrrl Established Member

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It is insecurity for a good reason. No man wants to be in the position of being the nice guy who she doesn't find sexually attractive. It's the lowest position in the relationship totem pole and a man has very good reason not to want to occupy it. Can you blame him?

 

Dude. If he's the nice guy getting friend zoned left and right I dunno, maybe he should work on his lady skills instead of trying to make me feel badly about myself?

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sweetjasmine Established Member

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By that logic, if a woman has had sex on the first date with someone, she's supposed to have sex with every man from that point forward?

 

She can't learn from her mistakes?

 

If a guy buys a bouquet of flowers for his first date with one lady, he needs to do it with every other first date henceforth, or else he's making them wait and making chumps out of them.

 

So where are my g-d flowers, eh?! :mad:;)

 

On a somewhat tangential note, does anyone else find it extremely tacky to discuss details of your sex life with other people, even ones in your social circle? I mean, really.

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rocketman122 Established Member

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Interesting, I think the same of men who have pics of themselves in their underwear posing like Arnold Schwarzenegger on an interpersonal relationship forum. Tit for tat babyeee. :D

 

HAHA Touche' I dont have to be ashamed of my body.

 

but I dont sleep around and have ONS. dont know if you do. you cant possibly compare me posing in my underwear to a women who has ONS.

It pisses me off when I hear women have ONS. dont know why, but it fires me up and I just have anger for that person.

Woggle Established Member

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Don't know. I go based on the here and now. If he's being good to me that's all I care about. *shrug*

 

Well I like to know who I am dating and that is why I care about the past.

Drseussgrrl Established Member

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HAHA Touche' I dont have to be ashamed of my body.

 

but I dont sleep around and have ONS. dont know if you do. you cant possibly compare me posing in my underwear to a women who has ONS.

It pisses me off when I hear women have ONS. dont know why, but it fires me up and I just have anger for that person.

 

Life is pretty short to be going around letting people's personal lives piss you off.

 

 

How exhausting that would be.

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