fixme Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Hey. Here is my story. My girlfriend and I broke up three months ago after three years together. I intiated the breakup because I thought I wasnt happy anymore. However after being seperated I have realised it wasnt the relationship that wasnt making me happy it was me. I recently began third year at post secondary in January. I have been really stressed for the past year trying to figure out life and the fear of finding a career after school is done. I thought my relationship was causing me to not be happy but after reflecting on it, I see that my girlfriend didnt do anything. I was just depressed with my life. This caused me to act different with her and I showed less enthusiasm in general. This made her feel uncertain. After we broke up I tried to reach out to her but no reply. She blocked me on facebook and said I hurt her too much. I sent her an apology letter as well. After three months I have controlled my emotions. I want to try to work things out but Im not sure how. I have taken the time to improve myself and fix the things I was doing wrong. I really want to make things right. I tried dating another girl but its not the same.
sentra79 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Have you talked to her to see how she feels about it? If she isn't interested in giving it a shot then what you want really doesn't matter. So do that first.
SimonSerenade Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Sorry to hear that, it's good that you realised it wasn't the relationship in the end, some people can't seperate their life from their relationship when things are going bad, I geuss you learned a lesson for the next girl if your ex doesn't come back but you'll never know asking us, be honest with her and see where it gets you, it might take some patience since you left her but good luck.
Author fixme Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Should I just call her. And if she answers what do I say. I havent talked to her in three months and dont want to come off strong. Do I mention the break up or just try to become a friend before anything.
SimonSerenade Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I wouldn't dance around it, just ask her if you can talk and go from there, that's the only way your gonna get an answer, you dumped this girl, I doubt she's going to want the conselation prize of being just friends.
StrongLass Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 you dumped this girl, I doubt she's going to want the conselation prize of being just friends. This. A million times this. If you're really serious about making it work this time be prepared to labor for it because broken faith/trust needs to be properly rebuilt; it can't just be superglued back to where it was. She's not about to forget what you've done...but she may forgive you & have enough love left to try again. Be direct. Be clear. Be sincere.
slowday Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Hi, If you have decided that you love her and are willing to take the chance that she rejects you this time, do it. Life is short and we only get one. If you don't try you will always wonder about what could have been. However, don't rush it and understand that you may have to pursue her all over again - against the background of hurt and lost respect (from her to you). Make sure you are sensitive about how she feels and make the changes necessary to make the relationship work this time.
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