magneet Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Hi guys I have posted multiple times... a long time ago, then a few months ago again - I have gotten good advice. But somehow I can't remember it or stick to. I have read certain comments where people say if the ex wants to keep you in their life as a best friend, because you are amazing, you know them, the emotional support that you provide for each other, but they don't want to be in a relationship again... just friends, best friends. It sound all good and fair, HOWEVER the other party is more involved, maybe more of a love addict or whatever the reason, hence the answer is a lot times - either we are together or there is nothing. quick background, im 28, she 27, dated for 3 years, seperated for nearly 2 years, been chatting ever since, whenever i meet someone i cant proceed as i love her AND she [or i let her] come in the way as she is scared of losing me. this year she said lets go on vacation together, again in 6 months, as she loves me, im the best travel buddy, etc. anyway, i am over being her friend and nothing more as i still have romantic feelings for her. Well, that's what I said to her. Either we are together or nothing. her response was simple, I don't want to be in RL with you... Still, I can't move away, or get away from her... she booked herself another flight to visit another friend in a different part of the world and now i am wondering whether we shouldn't have gone on vacation together, firstly. and secondly, why i can't bring myself to letting go of her! well, i am scared of not having her in my life would be the first part of the answer. help? should i continue pursuing her, be her friend, probably not date someone else while i am interested in her, and then maybe in 2 or 3 years she will realise - wow, she wants to get back together with me. or cut her totally out? btw, we live quite far apart and only see each other 1, 2 a month if we fly up to each other.
theonlyjuan Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Definatly cut her out. You can't handle being friends and nothing more. It's not going to do you any good at all if you can't handle it.
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