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I can't take it anymore, I think I will broke 5 weeks NC tonight !

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youcanever Established Member

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Pals,

 

My ex broke up with me 5 weeks ago. Told me she doesn't see me as a bf she see me as a friend. But she still loves me so much. Told me not to contact her again. I kept that promise for 3 weeks then she called me. We had a friendly chat but she told she is not calling me to mix my mind. She will send my stuff back. I was back to square one. And it has been 2 weeks since NC again.

 

Lastnight I creeped on her instagram and saw her new photos. She is so beautiful, so cute, so happy, so charming, so smart. I want her back.

 

I am going to beg for her to come back.

 

Also lastnight I accidentally liked one of her instagram photos. But unliked it in 2 2-3 seconds later. I don't know if she saw that. That is eating inside of me.

 

I miss her so much. I'm going out for drink with a friend and it has been almost 2 months I haven't drink anything. I need that.

 

I think I will call her tonight and tell her how much I miss her, how much i love her and how much i want her back.

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Pals,

 

My ex broke up with me 5 weeks ago. Told me she doesn't see me as a bf she see me as a friend. But she still loves me so much. Told me not to contact her again. I kept that promise for 3 weeks then she called me. We had a friendly chat but she told she is not calling me to mix my mind. She will send my stuff back. I was back to square one. And it has been 2 weeks since NC again.

 

Lastnight I creeped on her instagram and saw her new photos. She is so beautiful, so cute, so happy, so charming, so smart. I want her back.

 

I am going to beg for her to come back.

 

Also lastnight I accidentally liked one of her instagram photos. But unliked it in 2 2-3 seconds later. I don't know if she saw that. That is eating inside of me.

 

I miss her so much. I'm going out for drink with a friend and it has been almost 2 months I haven't drink anything. I need that.

 

I think I will call her tonight and tell her how much I miss her, how much i love her and how much i want her back.

 

I hope you'll reconsider. She knew to contact you once before when she wanted to talk to you, I don't think you should initiate contact. :(

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Don't do it!!! she'll like you so much more if you don't break NC!:D

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youcanever Established Member

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Don't do it!!! she'll like you so much more if you don't break NC!:D

 

She is moving on. How can she like me more? Even though she like me more, she will not initiate contact ever.

 

Because when she called me I told her she shouldn't contact me anymore. Because I don't want to be her friend, I want to be her bf.

 

Ahhh that sucks..

 

I need to call her. On the other hand, I'm such a mess.

 

If I be sure that she didn't see that instagram "like" I would reconsider. But my mind is so foggy. Can't think straight.

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I hope you'll reconsider. She knew to contact you once before when she wanted to talk to you, I don't think you should initiate contact. :(

 

SHe is a very proud girl. She wouldn't initiate ever again. I'm sure of it.

 

I'm losing her man.

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She is moving on. How can she like me more? Even though she like me more, she will not initiate contact ever.

 

Because when she called me I told her she shouldn't contact me anymore. Because I don't want to be her friend, I want to be her bf.

 

Ahhh that sucks..

 

I need to call her. On the other hand, I'm such a mess.

 

If I be sure that she didn't see that instagram "like" I would reconsider. But my mind is so foggy. Can't think straight.

 

Don't do anything till you've sorted your mind out. You might feel very different later on today. You're not losing her, she is gone :( . But I think you just need to relax and think this through first ok?

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Don't do anything till you've sorted your mind out. You might feel very different later on today. You're not losing her, she is gone :( . But I think you just need to relax and think this through first ok?

 

I'm going to meet a girl friend today. I will share my thoughts with her. After that I can decide.

 

She is gone. Really gone. It hurts so bad.

 

It hurts that someday she will make another guy sooo happy and I am sure that guy will be perfect and won't let her go or won't let her feelings go away.

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I'm going to meet a girl friend today. I will share my thoughts with her. After that I can decide.

 

She is gone. Really gone. It hurts so bad.

 

It hurts that someday she will make another guy sooo happy and I am sure that guy will be perfect and won't let her go or won't let her feelings go away.

 

That's a good decision, talk it through with your friend and then see how you feel later. It might be you just need to talk to someone to hear your own thoughts out loud.

 

Yes it does hurt very badly, I know. But the pain will not last like this forever ok?

 

You were so strong yesterday, you will be again. This feeling is fleeting and will pass.

 

There will be a much better girl for you.

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Don't give in, man. It will only push her further away. Stay the course, you're not alone.

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That's a good decision, talk it through with your friend and then see how you feel later. It might be you just need to talk to someone to hear your own thoughts out loud.

 

Yes it does hurt very badly, I know. But the pain will not last like this forever ok?

 

You were so strong yesterday, you will be again. This feeling is fleeting and will pass.

 

There will be a much better girl for you.

 

Thanks for the support. Yes I was doing amazing till I creeped on her instagram.

 

My head hurts because of crying.

 

Seriously I'm done with relationships. They just blows anyway.

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Don't give in, man. It will only push her further away. Stay the course, you're not alone.

 

Okay if I contact her I push her away.

 

Then how can I pull her closer? By NC and improving myself.

 

Is there anything else I can do to make her contact me again?

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Thanks for the support. Yes I was doing amazing till I creeped on her instagram.

 

My head hurts because of crying.

 

Seriously I'm done with relationships. They just blows anyway.

 

You're welcome, my friend. Stay off the social networks, nothing good to see there. It only makes you relapse. You will feel better when you get home later, some fresh air and company will do it. Let us know how you go later. Best of luck. :)

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Okay if I contact her I push her away.

 

Then how can I pull her closer? By NC and improving myself.

 

Is there anything else I can do to make her contact me again?

 

I don't know, I only know that you can't force people to be with you. Here's the thing; nothing you can say is going to make her come back but by being absent you're giving her a chance to miss you.

 

That's what I believe anyway, I have no idea how my ex is doing but if she misses me half as much as I'm missing her then maybe she'll come back someday and in the meanwhile I try to focus on other things.

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You're welcome, my friend. Stay off the social networks, nothing good to see there. It only makes you relapse. You will feel better when you get home later, some fresh air and company will do it. Let us know how you go later. Best of luck. :)

 

Will do. Thanks pal.

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I don't know, I only know that you can't force people to be with you. Here's the thing; nothing you can say is going to make her come back but by being absent you're giving her a chance to miss you.

 

That's what I believe anyway, I have no idea how my ex is doing but if she misses me half as much as I'm missing her then maybe she'll come back someday and in the meanwhile I try to focus on other things.

 

One last question.

 

How about the scary thought of running by her and her future boyfriend in future? Jeez..

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Dude, have more pride and self respect. Calling and begging will only make you look pathetic, weak and desperate. Traits that no women find attractive. She called you because she felt guilty. You should of ignored her call.

 

You're only chance at another shot is to disappear from her life. NC completely. Unless she calls or texts that she misses you and wants another chance, you ignore her. Let her miss you and know what her life is without you in it. If she's over you, this wont help but it's your only chance.

 

The other thing you can do is work on yourself. Work out, find new friends, people to hang with. Meet another girl. If she see's you moving on with your life and are with another girl, that would screw w/her head. Hopefully by then, you're over her and can focus on the new one.

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One last question.

 

How about the scary thought of running by her and her future boyfriend in future? Jeez..

 

Yeah it's a scary thought, I just try to not think of stuff like that at all though of course sometimes it's inevitable for your mind to go there. I am guessing at some point you would just not care though I'm not even close to being there myself.

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Yeah it's a scary thought, I just try to not think of stuff like that at all though of course sometimes it's inevitable for your mind to go there. I am guessing at some point you would just not care though I'm not even close to being there myself.

 

I'm sure those times will come that I won't care because I wouldn't mind running by my previous ex.

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I wouldn't worry about it. If you do see her with a new guy, it's never as bad as you make out before.

 

All I know is I am working out hard and it's paying off. Saw my ex the other day n she said I looked good and well. Might be a bit vain but wait til she sees me in a few months. Hopefully I won't be the one feeling like **** when we see each other

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I wouldn't worry about it. If you do see her with a new guy, it's never as bad as you make out before.

 

All I know is I am working out hard and it's paying off. Saw my ex the other day n she said I looked good and well. Might be a bit vain but wait til she sees me in a few months. Hopefully I won't be the one feeling like **** when we see each other

 

Break ups are a great motivation for working out for guys. I was doing it too but then stopped it when I started creeping again.

 

Learned my lesson.

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Okay if I contact her I push her away.

 

Then how can I pull her closer? By NC and improving myself.

 

Is there anything else I can do to make her contact me again?

 

You do NC for you and you alone. NC is a tool to help you heal and move on.

 

You checked out her instagram. Don't you think that one day she might be curious and check out yours? See what you're up to?

 

Wouldn't it be nice if she can say to herself, "Damn! Look at all the things he's been doing! Is he scuba diving in that pic? Is he doing a mud run in that pic? Damn! Look at that bod! He's more ripped than when I was with him! And what's this pic? Is that the Eiffel Tower in the background? HE WENT TO PARIS?!?!? And what's this one, is that the Syndey Opera House? HE WENT TO AUSTRALIA?!?!? Is he white water rafting in that pic? Is he snowboarding in this pic? Is he horseback riding in that pic?"

 

She'll see that your life is fun and full of adventures. She'll see that you're a fun guy to be around! Girls don't want to hang around guys that are going to just sit at home a be a bum and all depressed; looking at their Ex's instagrams.

 

You need to start living your life as if she isn't coming back, because chances are....she's not. So, make self improvements to yourself and have some adventures. Life is too short. And who knows! You don't know who you'll meet along the way! But, you'll never know unless you put yourself out there!!!!

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I hope people have convinced you not to contact her!

 

For the future you should block her on Instagram, etc so you cannot lurk her. Lurking/creeping someone IS not going 'full NC'

 

Gotta cut them out entirely.

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well to me the answer is simple. You know how to find her and she knows how to find you. She told you that she only see you as a friend. And you told her that you don't want to be her friend. So she knows that. So if she wants you back to her life as a boyfriend she will find a way to contact you. To me it doesn't look like if you beg her something will change. Even if she will come back after begging it will be because she feels pitty for you. I guess you don't want that

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I haven't contacted her, and I don't feel the urge of contacting. When I feel like contacting I remember the feelings she put me through and that stops me. I'm okay right now.

 

Thanks for the support pals. Appreciated.

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((((((huggs))))) to you!!! you must be proud of yourself right now!

 

Keep that attitude!!!

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