Guvella4 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 If someone uses the line "I love you but I aint in love with you anymore" what exactly are they trying to say? Could they ever fall back in love with you, bearing in mind that we spent 3 years together and split 6 weeks ago. There hasnt been a prolonged period of NC (Prob 1 week at the most).
theonlyjuan Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Sounds more like, I care for you but it's run it's course. People change during long term relationships. They probably don't feel the same about it anymore. Unfortunately it happens a lot.
ggas Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Just let her be mate. Mind your own stuff and stop talking to her unless she initiates contact in which case you should just politely shrug it off. You most likely did nothing wrong but thinking about getting back together is really a waste of time and energy. There a million other beautiful and interesting girls out there. Being stuck on one shows weakness. No one wants to date an emotionally weak person. Make yourself happy and do things for you. Everything will be OK. I promise Love to all
aloneinaz Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Sadly, it means she's not interested in a relationship anymore and wants to find someone new. People fall out of love w/each other all the time. You're best bet is to go full NC, disappear from her life and move on to someone new. If you still want to have another chance, THEY ONLY WAY to do this is for you to disappear from her life. Let her see what her life is like w/out you in it. If she texts or emails, calls, ignore her unless she says she screwed up and misses you and wants a second chance. Trust me, i know it's hard as heck but you don't want to be mooning over someone who doesn't want you in thier life anymore.
jadedjay Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I wouldn't say give up all hope. I think its possible for her to fall back in love with you it just might take more time than you'd like. I was in a similar situation with my ex boyfriend now (lol) but about 6 months ago I loved him but wasn't in love with him. But I love him more than ever now. I think it's important to take into consideration that not everyone responds to break ups in the same way. I say give her time, and try to limit the amount of contact you two have. If its been a week without you talking, send a text saying you were thinking about her and hope she's having a good day, but not much else. If it's meant to be she will realize what she's missing and will come back. Right now, I think you should focus on not letting this ruin your potential future relationship with her. It's easy to be mad and upset with her for doing such a hurtful thing to you that it makes it harder for your relationship to be successful in the future if she does come back. So just try to take it easy...one day at a time. 1
Chi townD Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 The "ILYBINILWY" Speech is classic textbook speech for a cheater. There's someone else in the picture. She's cheating on you. 1
Mws Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I agree with Chitown my ex said the same thing to me i later found out she was seeing some one for 3 months and jumped at the first chance she knew it would work with him
Heartbroken Eagle Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 (edited) Sadly ditto.... It was during my ex 'speech' when she used this line and other crap when I suspected she was cheating. Unfortunately, after some snooping, I was correct.... Edited July 6, 2013 by Heartbroken Eagle grammar
Used2KnowU Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 my ex of 6 years told me this a year ago. there are only two possibles for this statement: 1. there is someone else and she is trying to let you down easy 2. there is no one else and she is just not into you as she once was. as my ex said 'she just doesn't feel those butterflies anymore'. either way my i would advice you state your mind to her, tell her how you feel and then move on. go no contact immediately. personally i believe that is the most pathetic, selfish and childish excuse someone can give to ending a relationship. be strong man, plenty of fishes in the sea.
SimonSerenade Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I'd like to defend what everyone is saying but unfortunately I can't, it's hard to wrap your head around an excuse like that, it degrades you of everything you feel your worth, after my ex left me I swore I saw her cuddled up on a bench with a guy, I tried so hard to shrug it off but that's my luck and she probably did leave me for another guy, I cried my eye balls out and just accepted it as a possibility, the hardest thing to accept about it was her strong attitude towards cheating in the first place, the kindest thing you can do in that situation is to be honest, its not fair to find out for yourself but nothing is fair about a break up like that, regardless you move on and do the best you can to live your life. 1
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