Author Sugarkane Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Sugar, Don't stress yourself out with a new baby on board as that's enough on your plate right there. Just back away from this friendship if it no longer serves a real purpose for you. Can you do that? Just walk away? Mea:) But of coarse our mutual friends all think he is great and sweet person.
Author Sugarkane Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 I don't think there's anything wrong with expecting things to be just. Quite a few times I've posted on here about doing the right thing eg with breakups, yet somehow get the short end of the stick every time. And other people do the wrong thing, yet people don't dump them for the smallest of things. I just don't get it. What does everyone think of this?
mea_M Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 But of coarse our mutual friends all think he is great and sweet person. But all that matters here sugar is how you feel about him. And I sense he is causing you un needed stress at this time. You need to forget about what others think and not be afraid to stand alone. There is certainly more courage involved in standing alone than following the thoughts and actions of mutual friends. Mea :-)
Author Sugarkane Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 People associate with each other for all kinds of reasons, and not all of it is necessarily for deep friendship. Some people just need 'company' to keep. Some people just need a person to go on a binge with them. Some relationships are superficial. Some people think they're friends with someone like your ex until they eventually see that their behavior could end up having an impact on them, too. FWIW, sociopaths - true sociopaths - are often extraordinarily skilled at grooming people, because their own sense of satisfaction depends on it. They feed egos, and expect theirs to be fed. Eventually, though, the mask falls off. I think your problem is that you expect to live in a world that is 100 percent just. I think you need to keep your relationships simple. Comparing yourself and your social status to others is not a good use of your time. Rather, you ought to spend time finding good, genuine people and cultivate and appreciate those relationships. It's that simple. Or it can be that complicated, if you make it that way. Still what to do about being excluded?
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