barrelwave Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 It's been 2 months since she's gone. I settled the last of our finances. I wished her good luck, be well. I have just lost a friend, lover, and a confidante. To the broken and lonely hearts everywhere else in the world. Hang in there. You will find your way back into living life to the fullest again.
iouaname Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I'm doing okay. I have my moments, but overall I am doing much better than before. Things don't seem quite as hopeless as they once did! 3
SimonSerenade Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I'm alright with every passing day it gets better, I've always been happy on my own so I'm just taking my time and getting used to it again, I still think about her from time to time but I can honestly say I don't care about her anymore and I don't love her anymore, what she does now is no concen of mine, shes gone and that's just how it is, I accepted it and I'm moving on, one thing I do miss is the friendship we had but that's something I'll get over in time, I think the only reason I miss that is because it reminds me so much of a friendship I lost a long time a go, she was never there when I needed her so I'm used to keeping mysel to myself now, I geuss she made it a lot easier than this should of been by being the selfish person that she is. 1
Nyclovin Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 She was my whole world for 4 years . Haven't seen her in 2 months at her request even though she lives ten minutes away . No fight , did nothing wrong , no new guy . She said she simply didn't love me like that anymore , packed my bag and waved goodbye as I stood by the elevator for the last time in tears. Not doing okay . 2
Hoaks Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I just woke up after dreaming of her again. Even though it was made official today, it was over 2 months ago. Im not sure how im feeling. At the moment it feels like it will be easier than last time. She did try to make it easier on me by being a nasty selfish cow the last month, me thinking this is just GIGS and I will ride it out was never going to happen. No choice in total nc now because she is getting a new sim for her phone. So thats easier too, bacause she would NEVER contact me from her new number.
Legatus Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I actually feel pretty good. I know I'm gonna see her again but now it can be as almost-strangers. Finishing "paperwork" that's all. I knew weeks ago that it's good things were finished but finally came to peace with the way it all happened, being left for someone else, cheated on et cetera. I can actually smile and talk about those things and sometimes even laugh when I look at things she's done out of immaturity and cowardliness. I do miss the feel of having someone close, since all my friends and family are in different country, but I've been by myself before, I will be fine now. I am almost there. Visiting my homeland will help and I will come back as a new man! 3
supaflyz Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I feel much better. I felt so lonely with the prior days coming to July 4th. We both plan to go to watch the fireworks together. I went to my cousin beach house instead because I didn't want anything to remind me of her. I had a fun time. Later on the night I even talk to my crush from 3 years ago. We were very good friends before I told her I want to be in a relationship with her. She was straight up with me, but I refuse to admit it. I told her some very bad things and treated her bad after that. She even met with me afterwards a few times to have lunch and dinner. I was surprise that she wants to talk to me after 3 years. I have no more hard feelings toward her. I apologize. She sounds excited to hear from me and wants to meet with me again. She just got out of a relationship the same time as me. It was fun talkign to her. Its like we first started talking 3 years ago. She even remember some of the stuff we talk about from that time. She's a wonderful girl that I just chose to treated bad.
Runscream Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I'm doing way better than before. It's been a month and a half of NC (although I still checked her fb for the first three weeks). I miss her from time to time or feel jealous whenever I see her profile picture (it's with the guy she replaced me with only three weeks after breaking up), but it affects me less and less every time. I'm actually checking out other girls I find attractive now. Time and NC are doing wonders for me 1
Tenderheartbear Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 Every day seems to get easier. Less tears and more motivation to get things done. My appetite has come back a little...eating at least one meal a day. Today I had a small moment but I turned on my current favorite song and danced around my apartment. It made me feel better
Hoaks Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I feel terrible today. Finaly got my phone back from repair. So haf to pay 150 for that, because she wont give the loan one back. Notice the phone bill is up to $694 owing from her using it after me trying 5 times this week to have that sim disabled on my account. Just a final kick in the guts from her. So after my mind racing and putting the the jigsaw together. I realise she has probably been with someone else the last couple of months while using me for my spare phone and cash. Everyone was telling me but I couldnt see it. I really feel like getting some sort of revenge. I really hope something happens to her. What a cow.
xXCountryXx Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 She texted me last night for the first time in a while. Hardcore bread crumb by telling me she would be back in my college town after she graduated and I assumed I'd be safe bring there again without her. Just keep moving on and don't look back. Stay busy, meet new people, use the extra time to go lift weights or find a new thing you enjoy. Just improve yourself and you'll do great.
groupergirl Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I still feel the pain, I still cannot understand jumping from one relationship to another BUT with each passing day and the help and love from my family and co-workers I am doing better with each day. I am also beginning to be very honest with myself and my feelings acknowledging that this was not a healthy relationship. I must admit that this man has major issues and he will take them to his next victim I mean girlfriend. I do still very much care for him but I must be honest and admit that I should have not sold myself short that my self esteem took a major hit. I am ok with that now. I am on the road to forgiving myself and him. I still have my very bad days but they are not everyday. Good Luck!
LostGirl11 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I've been doing pretty well. I reached the anger stage. Very empowering! I've found my self-respect! I'm happy I didn't make myself look crazy, and I'm happy to be in control. Feeling a little nostalgic tonight though, pretty emotional, but today is the first time I've cried in 3 weeks, so I'm not going to be too hard on myself. I hope I'll feel angry again tomorrow....It's the next best thing to feeling indifferent. 2
The Situation Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Doing badly. It's been three and a half months, a two-week holiday, finishing my degree, meeting someone else, re-connecting with old friends and places, and several nights out and still not getting very far. Turns out a holiday, no matter how incredible, acts as nothing but a distraction from reality. Took a huge punch to the face in the last week having been reminded of who wasn't there to see me - the girl I honestly want back in my life. It's my fault that she's not with me tonight. I was doing well not beating myself up not too long ago, but coming back from time away has practically reset my progress.
xXCountryXx Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Today?... Not good at all. She texted after 2 months and I've been doing my best to get her out of my head the entire day. So far, no luck...
The Situation Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Today?... Not good at all. She texted after 2 months and I've been doing my best to get her out of my head the entire day. So far, no luck... Did you reply? That's why I don't want to text my ex, it's not fair on her.
Tenderheartbear Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I had a dream about him last night. Dreamt that I had dinner with him and his family. I feel sad today and not sure how I'm going to get through work. Truthfully, I just want to hide under the covers. Ugh...
tinker683 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Honestly, I'm doing much better than I have in a long time... I still think about her every now and then but most of the time her presence in my head is a fleeting one, an idea that quickly pops in and out. I think that's just mostly a result of the fact that I thought about her so much and my brain just hasn't cognitively gotten used to the idea of not doing it. I can confidently say that I am happy with my life. It's a very different life than the one I had before but it's one I really like all the same. I've got my own place, my own routine, I'm seeing a personal trainer, I take Kung Fu classes once a week, and I've reconnected with my dance partner and her and I go ballroom dancing 1-2 a week. There are times when I'll REALLY remember her or find myself missing her but I try very hard not to dwell on those feelings. I usually just shift to something in the immediate and usually the thoughts drift away. I haven't quite forgiven her yet for stringing my along and lying to me the way she did but I feel I'm reaching the point to where I just don't care anymore. She has absolutely nothing to do with my day-to-day comings and going so when I think about the things I need to do versus the things I'd like to do, she just doesn't fit in any of the pictures so she's just becoming....irrelevant. She's become like a mosquito in my ear: She occasionally comes buzzing in it and I have to shoo her away but she goes away and I return to my normal life.
Tenderheartbear Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 An update from earlier: I made it through the day. I have to admit that I spent quite a lot of time at work surfing the net and researching things like meditation and the law of attraction but it really did help me. I found some new ways to cope and to be more positive about my situation. All is well over here
Eivuwan Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 It's been over a month and I'm able to socialize and have fun. The only issue is that when I'm not distracting myself with activities, I think about our relationship and how upset I am about the way he treated me after all I've done for him. This makes it hard to do work. Sigh. Anyone got tips on how to concentrate on work when this stuff is always going on in the back of my mind when I'm not having fun. Oh, and currently my work isn't that fun because I hate doing my thesis. Grr
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