TrebleClef Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 (edited) Well, that didn't take long! New guy sent me a "Dear John" text...all b/c I was late getting ready for a party? I took my time dressing b/c during the week I seem to be in a constant rush. I'm always going, going, going and have such a tight/full schedule. I asked new guy if today, I could just relax and get beautiful without being in such a frenzy. I said "After all, it's not like we'll get into trouble if we arrive to the party AFTER the scheduled time". He agreed and told me when he'd arrive to pick me up. I was ready when he arrived (which was earlier than he said) and commenced to walk out with some things needed for the party. He helped me, we got into the car.....and sat there.....quite a long time! I asked what's wrong and why are we just sitting here with the car running. He didn't respond. I asked again. No response. The he snaps: "What's the address to where we're going?!" I told him I was waiting on the text with the address. He then wigged out! He said "I'm not going!!!!!" He told me to get out of his car, told me to get my things out of his car, angrily helped me get my things out, rushed passed me and snapped: "I'll call you later!" got in his car, backed up and drove off. I didn't say a word. I said absolutely NOTHING. I think I was in shock. This is truly Dejavu (sp?) I stood in the middle of my kitchen still quiet thinking: Huh? What just happened here? I got myself together and decided not to stay home and wallow and went to the party. I had a blast. I danced, sang, laughed, ate until I couldn't any longer, and then went to look at fireworks. Much later, I get his text. A synopsis of the text: I'm too innocent for my age, my parents kept me under a rock and I have no personality b/c of that fact (). He's stepping and says he sees too many red flags (ironic...isn't it?). He then added: It's sad b/c I really care about you and don't want to hurt you. Like I said in my earlier post "One year later...almost". There CAN'T be something wrong with ALL the men I've met. There HAS to be something I'm doing/not doing and/or saying/not saying. It can't be all their fault. Edited July 5, 2013 by TrebleClef
SuperGeek Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 (edited) I really liked that you dressed up for the event. I think it's great you took your time. Hell I love it when a date dresses up when I go out to a party. I feel like a million bucks if I arrive at a party with a dressed up date. If a girl spends the time to look good, then there is nothing wrong with being fashionably late right? I always show up to parties late anyway I can remember my last few dates where the girl didn't even bother to "get beautiful" at all. So it's definitely not you. Your date was being an ahole and it's all on him based on what I'm reading here. Glad you decided to go out and have fun. Don't let this guy get you down. He sounds like he's insecure about something. Well, that didn't take long! New guy sent me a "Dear John" text...all b/c I was late getting ready for a party? I took my time dressing b/c during the week I seem to be in a constant rush. I'm always going, going, going and have such a tight/full schedule. I asked new guy if today, I could just relax and get beautiful without being in such a frenzy. I said "After all, it's not like we'll get into trouble if we arrive to the party AFTER the scheduled time". He agreed and told me when he'd arrive to pick me up. I was ready when he arrived (which was earlier than he said) and commenced to walk out with some things needed for the party. He helped me, we got into the car.....and sat there.....quite a long time! I asked what's wrong and why are we just sitting here with the car running. He didn't respond. I asked again. No response. The he snaps: "What's the address to where we're going?!" I told him I was waiting on the text with the address. He then wigged out! He said "I'm not going!!!!!" He told me to get out of his car, told me to get my things out of his car, angrily helped me get my things out, rushed passed me and snapped: "I'll call you later!" got in his car, backed up and drove off. I didn't say a word. I said absolutely NOTHING. I think I was in shock. This is truly Dejavu (sp?) I stood in the middle of my kitchen still quiet thinking: Huh? What just happened here? I got myself together and decided not to stay home and wallow and went to the party. I had a blast. I danced, sang, laughed, ate until I couldn't any longer, and then went to look at fireworks. Much later, I get his text. A synopsis of the text: I'm too innocent for my age, my parents kept me under a rock and I have no personality b/c of that fact (). He's stepping and says he sees too many red flags (ironic...isn't it?). He then added: It's sad b/c I really care about you and don't want to hurt you. Like I said in my earlier post "One year later...almost". There CAN'T be something wrong with ALL the men I've met. There HAS to be something I'm doing/not doing and/or saying/not saying. It can't be all their fault. Edited July 5, 2013 by SuperGeek
Author TrebleClef Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Thanks "SuperGeek" for reading/replying. IMO new guy who was moving way too fast anyways. We'd only known each other for a few months and he was already calling ours a "relationship" saying it doesn't take a real man months or years to know if he has a gem or a psycho in a woman. He'd reiterate often how wild he is about me and what a wonderful, beautiful, intellect he has found in me. After only a few months?!?! I was still at: "Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know all this...what else ya got?". That may be too harsh of a sentiment I know, but I've come through to the other side of an extremely emotionally/verbally abusive relationship with THE number one black hearted, manipulative, lying, scamming CREEP! My guard was up, with an extra stainless steel exterior added on because of my ex. New guy said I was holding him responsible for what ex has done and I was too rigid and uptight. So, I tried my best to loosen up, relax, enjoy refreshing newness of a non-creep (so I thought)...to no avail apparently. I'm still sitting here wondering where did all that come from? Kicking me out of his car, then dumping me via text is a bit extreme b/c I was not ready on time (his "on time") for a party. It seems it was built up and me being late was the "straw that broke the camel's back"? I suppose I should look at this as a blessing. I really liked that you dressed up for the event. I think it's great you took your time. Hell I love it when a date dresses up when I go out to a party. I feel like a million bucks if I arrive at a party with a dressed up date. If a girl spends the time to look good, then there is nothing wrong with being fashionably late right? I always show up to parties late anyway I can remember my last few dates where the girl didn't even bother to "get beautiful" at all. So it's definitely not you. Your date was being an ahole and it's all on him based on what I'm reading here. Glad you decided to go out and have fun. Don't let this guy get you down. He sounds like he's insecure about something.
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